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Is this text from my ex- boyfriend threatening, or concerned..?

I just finished with him, he is very persistent, and won't take no for an answer when I haven't wanted to see him anymore.
I have told him firmly that I don't want to see him, and that I am recovering from being in a painful relationship with him..
He told me that he loved me etc by text last night, he is very into being in control..
This was a msg he sent me at 1.30am on Sat morning:

"Don't think that I'm not thinking about u little ms.m..xx"

Is he being threatening, or caring..?
Posted 2 months ago
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Anyone who cannot take no for an answer is a always threat. You answered you own question when you acknowledged that his is very much into control.

Newspaper are full of stories of stalkers and of persons injured or killed by those who cannot take rejection.

Don't be mislead by his admonishments of love they are meaningless and are only to lure you back.
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Posted Aug 4th, 2009 at 12:45AM
I think he is thinking he is cute.

However, if you are frightened by it, his intent doesn't matter as much. My recommendation is to cut all ties, not talking to him at all (or texting him) if that is the case.
You can even have the phone company block his number from being able to call or text yours, if it comes to that.
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Posted Aug 4th, 2009 at 12:45AM
You know him better than we do. Go with your instincts. If you feel he is threatening, he probably is. Change your number, dont answer his mssgs and if he gets too annoying get a restraining order.
Some just cant understand it when you say NO.
Best of luck.
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Posted Jul 3rd, 2009 at 8:50PM
change ur number........
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Posted Jul 3rd, 2009 at 8:51PM
Could be either one I'd be watchful. If this guy was "into being in control" that's the sign of a weirdo in the first place that's disrespectful and a criminal position to take in dealing with someone. I'd cut of all contact with this person period.
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Posted Jul 3rd, 2009 at 8:53PM
Ok, wow. Weirdo.


Change your number.
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Posted Jul 3rd, 2009 at 8:54PM
He's trying to get to you, and your emotions, any which way he can.....guys like him, will stop at nothing.....so, please.....get a different number.....
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Posted Jul 3rd, 2009 at 8:53PM
If you have a slight concern for your safety... change your number and don't reply.
If he persist, talk to someone who can help you. Tell your family and friends and take some action.
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Posted Jul 3rd, 2009 at 9:11PM
um....well personally id get close friends too help u and get there opinion
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Posted Jul 3rd, 2009 at 9:19PM
He's being a creeper with no respect for your wishes. He does not honor you, showing that deep down he does not care about you. Change your number and get a restraining order if possible. You know this could be labeled as harrassment and you could get him in serious trouble if you wanted to... at least you could use it as leverage. But it sounds like you are still kinda into him so... I dont know what you want to do.
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Posted Jul 4th, 2009 at 12:42AM
I think he is just being sweet by telling you that even you dumped him, he is still thinking about you.
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Posted Jul 4th, 2009 at 7:54AM
be concerned. he does not take no for an answer. he has crossed the line. he does not respect your boundaries. do not read his text messages or reply to him. you will only encourage him to keep sending you text messages. it might or will escalate, especially when he feels he has lost control over you.
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Posted Jul 4th, 2009 at 8:16AM
if you made it clear to him that it is over then he's being really dumb to persist.
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Posted Jul 4th, 2009 at 10:54AM
What's important is if you feel it is threatening.
You know him and your relationship with him better than we do. It sounds like you have made your decision and he is not respecting your decision or you. I know it is hard but it is important that your words and actions confirm that you are sticking with your decision. You may still have feelings for him. Even you don't, we all like the feeling of being attractive, even to people we don't necessarily want a relationship with. Turning anyone away can be painful on both of you.
It's a good idea to write down the date when you officially told him to stay away from you then document the date and time of every thing he does after then that makes you feel uncomfortable. Documentation is very important if this goes to court. It is vital that you stand by your decision. If you give in to him and call him or meet with him consensually then everything you have documented up until then is not admissible and you have to start over. Also it shows him your weakness and makes him stronger.
And most importantly, stay safe.
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Posted Jul 14th, 2009 at 9:13AM
you said it yourself CONTROLING!
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