I know how that feels. I really do. But, girl, you need to love yourself more than him--you need to learn to be happy without him. I know you love him so much, but you can't keep sitting in your puddle of tears. It's normal to feel the pain and cry even after 6 months. You said you can barely make yourself happy, and that sounds like you're depending on this man for happiness which is not good for you. Keep living your life. If your ex would wanna work things would with you, then hey, tell him how you feel and get back together. But if it really seems there's no chance it's gonna happen, you need to step away. Especially if it seems like he's moved on. You need to see it as the past and move on to the future. Any guilt, any regrets---leave them. If you're blaming yourself for the breakup, regretting stuff you may have done or said wrong, stop. All those old pictures, gifts, etc----either throw them out or put them away and don't look at them for at least a month. Make a list of all the things you hated about the relationship, 'cause I know how it feels---you start forgetting the negative and only remember the sweet moments then miss him&blame yourself&ache---but that's only gonna make you suffer. Always thinking of the past and "what ifs" will make you keep reliving the pain. Talk to other guys, talk to your girlfriends, take the opportunity to do things you never got to do before. Just live your life and make yourself happy. Instead of praying for him back, pray for the right man to come along, pray for your heart to heal, and pray for happiness. If it's him, great. If it's not, you'll be happy anyways with whoever's destined for you.
why did he leave work that out first, then focus on yourself and self worth, when we try to hold on to people we drive them further away .accept hes left and build a new life without him. if its right you will connect again but only once you have built your own life.
Dont look for other men to make you happy that rarely works make yourself happy.
I once read an article that said to get over someone, you need to make a long list of all his faults.
Also, try focusing on other things in your life, get busy with activities.
Just take one day at a time. One step at a time. Don't think. Shut off your mind and stop thinking. Just move and go through the motions and soon, I hope, you will be thinking of him less and less and it will not hurt as much. You could go to a therapist for treatment. It's OK. They are there to help. Do you have insureance? Anyway, go if you need the help. It's no biggie. If you need help, take it.
When u really love sonmeone it hurts alittle less everyday.its not easy love isnot a switch u can turn on and off..u will get through it cry when u have to..been there know how it feels
With full intentions of mailing it to him, I would write him a letter ,spill out my guts and confess every feeling i have, i would get mad, and yell in big letters, i would keep adding to it until everything was out.
Then i would never ever send it to him, i would probably hold onto it for a few years, look at it every once and while when i need a good cry and wish to mourn the people i have lost in my life. You don't have to give up the pain, the love, the memories, you just can't let it control you.
Find what it is you love to do and go do it, take lessons, get out there, meet people. Smile at other people all the time, even if you have to fake it =) Take it one day at a time.
Its said time heals all wounds. Six months isn't that long a time. No idea how long the relationship was and how intense it was on both sides. I say with the others, try to focus on yourself. Don't push yourself. Only you can tell when its time to move on with your life and relationships, I'd try to be open to a new relationship for yourself.
When I was your age, I fell in love with a guy. It took me two years to get over him. Something I once read that has kept me going. I don't remember the quote exactly, but goes something like. when the semi-gods leave, then the gods arrive. Just let yourself feel whatever you want to feel, because someday, you meet someone who will make feel differently, when the right time comes.
Move on, half the people in the world are males. If you don't look you won't find.....
"Help me Rhonda, help me get her outta my heart.....da da da da da da da ...."