It is my 15th wedding anniversary today and i am disgusted with my marriage.
i have been the lead in most of my relationships with men. i decided to take a back seat during most of my marriage and it has not worked out at all. he lies all the time and thinks that the marriage is all about him. we lead very closed off lives and i am sick to death of it. i don't even know what question to ask...
13 Answers to "It is my 15th wedding anniversary today and i am disgusted with my marriage."
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I also started year fifteen this month and it seems like we are on a downhill spiral too. My heart goes out to you. Do you feel kind of trapped?
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like a rat...all of that time and effort going to nowheres ville...i just don't know what to do
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Well, I would vow that year 16 won't be like the previous 15. You have to confront it head on even though it will shake things up a bit. It is scary, but I had to do that at year 12 this past summer. Better to call it out for what it is and deal with it than to just ride it out in the same lifeless state forever. Life is for living.
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thanks and it is scary
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Its not a question. Tell him your emotionaly dead in your relationship and you need and want a DIVORCE.
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i have
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So tell him over the Easter holiday he must move out. Then on the 27th file for your divorce.
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Yes. Sounds like your married alright.
Sorry it's not fulfilling.
Maybe , tactfully, suggest treating the next fifteen differently.Like (1)
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i have
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Maybe it's time to move on from this marriage?
I was only married for 9.5 years, but divorcing was still the right choice for me and I'm much happier. My ex was a nice guy but there was no passion, and eventually we were kind of that way too...very closed off from each other as well as closed off from the world around us.Like (1)
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i would love to
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What are the major things stopping you? I'm sure they can be worked out.
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where do you want to be for the 16th, 17th, 18th, etc....?
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Vegas baby! or leave the country, that would be awsome
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then you have work to do...set it in motion
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Join the club. Its the club none of us want to belong to but unfortunately do.
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We should all go out to the club.Like (1)
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Get out and move on. People who suggest counseling can have him and give their experience on it.
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i am not well and would have a difficult time finding work
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those were your choices? in the lead or in the back seat? Time for some balance missy!!
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I sort of agree. Balance is best, but I also think if you're a natural leader you will never be fulfilled by taking the back seat. It's just not in your nature...and you'll grow to resent the other person eventually.
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hm, of course you are right. It seems leading suits you. Why oh why did you stop?
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I was married for 25 years, at least 15 of them happily. My ex became married to her job though and we grew apart. If you already know you are unhappy, get out of it as fast as you can and make a new life for yourself
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it is delicate because i am not well at all
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I'm sorry and good luck. Ours was on it's last legs by our 15th yr. We made it to 16 yrs and then it ended in divorce...
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thanks and sorry
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Counseling!
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he won't
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Best Answer (Chosen by Voting):
Posted by placidbob113 Mar 22nd, 2013 at 4:22PM
One question that comes to mind is "anyone know a good attorney?"
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Reply by joyba61 Mar 22nd, 2013 at 4:28PM
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