I had three little boys, my new husband 2 sons & an adopted daughter when we married. It wasn't 6 weeks later we started waking up and there'd be another boy at the breakfast table. After a couple of weeks I'd ask if they needed a bed, school clothes and some lunch money.
Once I tried to tell one mother how well her son was doing and the woman said "Don't ever talk to me about this again." This? 'This' was her BOY.
Take him and love him and thank God for you. I just can't comprehend this. My stepkids' mom told me right away that her children were not allowed to stay over night with her. ?? She died just a few years after the youngest graduated - alone.
you are quite right, good on you for caring.
That's really awesome of you and totally agree in your way of doing it. Good luck to you!
What you want is necessary for it to work. You need to have legal control of the child otherwise you'll be forever fighting the system. Without it you could have the child ripped out of your life, that would be devastating for all concerned. If you really want this...go for it legally, no one will watch your back don't put your trust in family promises.
That might be the way to do it so that she can't come back and mess everybody over again, You are awesome to be doing this. All the best to you.
The world needs more like you m'dear! CYA legally though... find who to argue the stability issue too. My Dad had a childhood something like you mention and... well look at me and guess how well his role model masculinity form football coaches and drill srgt's played with me? Took a long time and me growing up to communicate with him instead of being yelled at... That stuff messes with their head indeed
I just had a "grumpy" Pop... He's a fantastic person when considering what HE had to go through and my slacker butt hardly knows suffering... but thank you soooo much for saying so! Let's put you on the scotus. Potus is a scapegoat and your effective not just personable... you need real power to guard it from the likes of me
The child needs a stable life. Get custody, legally,or let the state take care of him.
Your right not to take him without legal custody. Months or even years later the child could be Uprooted.
At least if the state gets involved they will be made aware of the Mothers character. They will take him then you can offer to take him from the state. They will Probably,let you Foster they prefer relatives.
My hat is off to You!
Oh yes!Wish there were more of You.
Wow your great! go for it.
Your doing the right thing, though they say the child should be with the mother.
You should most definitely do what you said you'd do, hope all works out and the child has a good up bringing and a settling life!
It would never be settling with the mother he has, hope all goes your way though.
Some people shouldn't have children, (her) but these things happen don't they.
It's a pity drugs is more important than your own children.
But anyhow good luck!
Good on you, yeah letting him see her I guess is the right thing, only if she is in the right state.
A safe place is something every child should have.
Wow thats a very brave thing you are planning on doing. Good luck and I hope it works out for both you and the child
i think you would be a great mom
thats what i mean the care never dies