I agree about taking your thoughts too seriously. One guy I read sometimes says to remember that "ideas are not facts". I also think that volunteering is a very good suggestion.<br />
You're approaching the age when your adult relatives are going to start treating you like an adult instead of treating you like a little girl. Your mother's always going to act like a mother, but she's soon going to be more like a friend than an authority figure. <br />
To get to the point, if you have a big family and you're close with some of your adult relatives, you could lean on them a bit, too. Start building relationships with them on your own, as opposed to involving your parents.<br />
Go out of your way to be nice to your favourite relatives, your grandparents and aunts and uncles and even your mother. Go visit a couple of different relatives every week, give them a hand with their chores, bring them gifts like cookies or handmade clothing, or maybe have a couple of different relatives over for dinner every week. <br />
This solves two problems. You'll have some good company on a regular basis, surrounding yourself with people who love you and whom you trust. By making the effort to be generous, you'll be opening your heart up a little bit, as well.
stop being self centered searching for things that only please you! Look around, pay some attention to some people and detect a way for helping them in some way! Make secret hints that help without being observed! Smile to others and salute them!<br /><br />
And... This looks weird but actful! Clean the toilette room at ur house daily for ten days! This can minimize the coky spirits that hinders feeling of affection!
Have a look inside your mind<br />
Take fright at what you see<br />
You must face the truth to find<br />
The key to being free<br />
On the road to inner peace<br />
You must make a start<br />
And you will not get lost<br />
By following your heart