I've been married over a dozen yrs, but have met 'The One'. She's who I want to be with, so what do I do?

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Gov. Sanford is that you?

Jus' Kidding

Be with "The one".

I know it sounds selfish, but why should you live an unfulfilled life so that your wife can be happy in hers. You deserve to be happy too. Life is too precious and happiness and love are too rare to be passed up at the expense of someone else's happiness.

Life is filled with 2 kinds of regrets, regretting doing something and regretting not doing something.

I can not guarantee that you will not regret leaving your wife to be with "the one". BUT If you do not be with "the one" I can guarantee you that you'll regret it constantly, every time you're reminded about why your unfilled in your marriage by your wife you'll wish you left.

Gov Sanford called his "mistress" his soul mate, but said that he was trying to fall back in love with his wife. Why? Because society thinks that where he should be. What sense does it make to have found your soul mate but not be with them because someone else got there 1st. What is this a race?

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Other 7 Answers to I've been married over a dozen yrs, but have met 'The One'. She's who I want to be with, so what do I do?

midlifemadness	Posted Jul 1st, 2009 at 11:58AM If you are having an affair with this other women, then MAN up and be honest with your wife. Rated: +4Vote for this!
laceset	Posted Jul 1st, 2009 at 11:47AM There really isn't anything romantic about screaming kids, mounting debt, and hardly no freedom. Just remember the grass isn't greener on the other side. Rated: +4Vote for this!
LilAnnie	Posted Jul 1st, 2009 at 11:58AM Are you absolutely sure? Then, please, inform your wife as soon as possible. In my mind, a sneaky unfaithful husband is a thousand times worse then a broken marriage. I think. Rated: +3Vote for this!
SaratogaGirl	Posted Jul 1st, 2009 at 11:45AM How long have you known this "the one"? Long enough to be sure? How does SHE feel about YOU? Is this mutual? If it is, then you must let your wife know NOW... sooner rather than later. Rated: +3Vote for this!
alicia87	Posted Jul 1st, 2009 at 11:45AM I think this is a classic case of "the grass is greener on the other side," but that's just me... You need to figure out what you want and talk to your wife about it asap! Rated: +2Vote for this!
Hell0World	Posted Jul 1st, 2009 at 11:45AM I think that is very sad because I can't imagine how your wife would feel. But I guess you have to follow your heart. But LilAnnie is right, Are you sure? Because it could just be a fling and not be worth it and you are going to throw away 12 years of marriage. Either way, you should tell your wife how you feel because it is not fair to her. But don't stay in the marriage if you are really not happy. Rated: +2Vote for this!
singer1960	Posted Jul 1st, 2009 at 12:02PM Didn't you think that about your wife????? And if not....Why did you marry her???? After that long...There will always be another..."The One" People change...and the new One does not have the same old baggage..... Rated: +1Vote for this!

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