I've had a crush on a waitress for a bout 2yrs why wont my crush go away?

Unrequited love is self-sustaining. It isn't expressed either for practical reasons (one is already in a relationship) or for fear of rejection. The smitten cannot make their feelings known for fear of changing the nature of their relationship and access to the object of affection. So, one continues to harbor romantic feelings and obsess but with no intention of acting upon the feelings. It's like a drug. Some say unrequited love is the only truly sustainable kind.

Hmm. You have someone in your life. You have a crush on a girl and you haven't told her anything or asked her out for 2 years!

Okay, sounds like you need to man up. You are trying to be a nice guy, which is noble, but being nice ends up hurting women in the long run. Open up a little, and go after what you want in life.

Telling the person who you are with, may cause some hiccups in the short term, which is probably why you are afraid to tell her, but will lead to things you actually want in the long run.

Telling the waitress that you think she is cute, is scary and will very likely lead to rejections (about 1 in 10 chance I'd say), but you will be proud of yourself for acting on your true desires.

If you really want to ask her out after all this time, it will not work with a preplanned out plan. Like asking her out for coffee won't work because you have so much built into it, that you will sound awkward and ridiculous and she will see you are totally crushing on her and she won't go. People don't want what they can have. Your only hope is to continue to visit for food and wait for the opportunity to present itself. Follow the 3 second rule. You feel like saying something, then do it. If 3 seconds pass, then it will be awkward and you have already thought about it too much.

Example. You are there and you overhear her talking about a concert. You slip in and say, that sounds like a cool concert. We should go together. Just wait for your moment, because you are too much of a chicken to ask her for coffee. Then, when the moment comes, do it, despite fear of rejection.

If she does reject you, realize it is not because of you. It is because she doesn't know you. She rejected a glimpse of what she thought was you. Good luck!

Because you haven't found an alternative - a real woman. Because after two years, the waitress is more illusion than person.

I'm guessing because you haven't met anyone you fancy more in the meantime. Do you think (in your heart of hearts) that it is just a crush that could never amount to anything, or does it feel like something more? If it's the former, the only way to cure the crush is to make an effort to get out and meet other people. If the latter, you *could* try saying something. (If you do, keep it low-key; say you quite like her, rather than loving her, that sort of thing.)

It's a bit scary either way, so good luck!

You keep fucken stalking her. Either that or you're really delusional.