Ladies - Do you mind if your husbands look at ****. If not, what would you do?

I hate it. (Even at this very moment) my husband goes to sites that have those pictures on them-when he downloads torrent files and crap. I hate it hate it hate it. I don't think it's fair...because it just isn't fair. The sites I go to don't have naked or even half naked, or seductive looking men on them. So wtf? I flip out when I see him opening up a page like that. And I check his computer every now and then. But, I've gone through all of the lies for 4 years, so I don't trust him. He is not HONEST about it. He would tell me he didn't do anything-even when the proof is staring him in the face! Most of the time I found stuff when I wasn't even looking! I would come home from work-get on the computer-open up the browser and the p0rn would pop up! Then he'd deny it-still. There are those moments when I have put in a video-to spice things up, but then he says he doesn't like it-when in fact he does (because his body shows it.) Maybe he is just inhibited, I don't know. It doesn't change the fact that I really dislike him looking at other women naked. If he was someone who kept doing this, there is no way I could stay with someone like that. I don't agree with all of these other people's excuses of "he's a man." B.S. ! It robs the relationship of sexual energy! He's putting that sexual energy towards someone or something else when he sitting at his computer or looking at a dirty magazine. And what the heck is motive? Does someone need a motive now to get turned on? Just because sex is part of "human nature" it doesn't make it right for a husband to ogle other women and get himself off doing so-where is the joy in that for the wife? Unless the wife is bi of course.
I always get on my husband about being honest about it...I think I could handle it better that way-but I still totally disagree with it.

I don't care what my husband does. His sexlife is his business as my sexlife is my business.

If I was married, yes I think it would bother me.

It would bother me. What I would do depends on how much he did. If I felt he had some psychological addiction to it and he looked at it all the time, I'd have to divorce. If it was only every once in a while, I would probably just cry and then burn his dinner on those days.

Some of us watch it with them...

Wow, it's funny you ask this....it's what I've had the most trouble getting used to with my husband. My ex must have been better at hiding it. Until Josh, I didn't realize that 99% of guys do it. When I first found out that he was looking at it I was really upset and insulted. Now I've come to realize that he's going to do it regardless and I'd rather him not lie to my face about it. It still bothers me a little but I let it go. He's a man.

it depends on how often... like near the end of my pregnancy i didnt care b/c we werent having sex (i didnt feel like it) & its not like he actually has a chance with those girls he was looking at... if he looked @ it a lot it would bother me but he doesnt look at it much

if I had a husband, I would mind. I would not be happy with a man who looks at ****.

I mean, how would he feel if I felt the need to look at naked (and often degraded) men- idealized men- when I had him? how would he feel if I viewed men as sex objects? I imagine he wouldn't like it very much, and that it could make him feel hurt and insecure, not only because this would involve surrounding myself with fantasies of other guys, but because it is also disregarding his feelings and showing a lack of respect for him.

If I were in a relationship, I would always think about how what I do affects him, and I hope he'd think the same way about me.