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19 no social life,no friends,been shy as heck of girls all my life confindence.But yes I used to have long hair for a black male when from 4th-8th grade middle school was my pontial and braids era for me.Looking back guys were some what jealous and girls did try hardest to get w/ me w/out coming out of theyre femal role.I'm ashamed now cause I didnt man up 90% of other guys would have no doubt but not me.I had a girl tap my butt but I'd say nothing but look shy and keep going coupkle more normal incidents.Anyways Im 19 now and starting to grow it back.I hear most guys cant pull it off and I did.But can I still put it off I think so.And have been anting to ever since I cut it off.Even if I did I still have no skills w/ women I hope I'm more comfortabel w/ myself.Im goign to job corps in a few weeks.Im thinking afther JC about taking up boxing to get some more manliness in espically if I'm gonna rock long hair as a blakc guy.What if some girls find out they might think im gay...naw?
lonleystoner lonleystoner 18-21, M 5 Answers Jan 16, 2013 in Health

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There's a very attractive black man in my town who has braided dreads past his bum. Added to his lovely skin, gorgeous smile and pretty brown eyes, he's very attractive IMO. <br />
Grow your hair, if you don't like it, get it cut again. No harm, no foul. Good luck :)

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but what about my situation w/ not being social and w/ the women?

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would you date him if he had my issues?
Im a virgin not that it matter but
Im half relgion half worldy about my virgintiy(input)

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I'd date him if I were interested in people that way (I'm asexual). If you do grow your hair, it may be a way to start a conversation with girls - I've spoken to the man in question a few times, mostly commenting on his hair (it really is beautiful) and I find it breaks the ice.
I think your problem is the shyness. Do you find it hard to talk to everyone, or just females?

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everyone.

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((((hugs)))) It's difficult sweetie. The best advice I can give you (from experience. Believe it or not, I was shy once) is fake it 'til you make it. Take an interest in people, ask them questions about themselves. Humans are egoists and it will keep a conversation going, break the ice and hopefully kick your social life into gear. Take up the boxing, if that's what you want to do, ask they guys at the gym for tips, get a rapport going. It will get easier, but you'll have to work at first.

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dnag no comment.

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I try to hard though and I think folks see threw.You smell nice form that hug :).I hope it kicks in gear as well.But for now Im roughin it till Job corps at the house haha smh.

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Haha, thank you ;) You'll get there, job corps is a start. And you come across as a nice guy, you can keep a conversation going and I'm sure you have hobbies and interests that you can chat to people about. I wish you the best x

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One more thing this will be a downer on my end.But I dont have any hobbies or real interests.

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Maybe your job corps will open up some new interests. Find out what you like doing before you start finding out about others - start a new hobby, don't be scared to try new things and maybe join some clubs that will let you meet people.

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Nut up son

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man thats like those loners who the media projects at home tell him to go out and nut up whose never had a chick b4.I feel I have a piece of that in me sadly.

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Well you never know if you never go huh?

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Imma grow my hair out.Might suit me better thought im older.And despite my situation i'll stand out a little.

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dont let it grow passed your shoulders and you'll be fine

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you really think so despite not being social and not ever havign a gf b4?

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yes yes of course, i know it sounds cheesy but if a girl wants you they dont care what you look like! dont worry about not having a girlfriend.

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Sucks to know I was that shy smh better late than never.I just wanna get out there in the world.Not in a genreal sin way though just get fun energy out and expand myself.Not saying hair will do all of this but its a start.

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Your hair has nothing to do with it really, I found if i surround myself with strangers one of them is bound to become my friend some day...

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