Ladies, when your man does not show affection does it make you feel less loved? Does it make you sad?
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Posted by everton13 Jul 30th, 2010 at 2:16PM
When my man shows affection for other women and not me, this makes me bloody crazy. But pay back time is coming soon.
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Posted by sweetpea64 Jul 10th, 2012 at 1:08PM
My boyfriend does not show me any affection. Usually I'm the one who initiates it. I stopped because I am tired of always being the one. The only time we really kiss and hug is hi and bye time. When he walks by me he doesn't even stop to hug, grab or whatever me. His hands just don't touch me at all. I hate this. I am a very affectionate person, I need this to feel loved and wanted and desirable to him. My last boyfriend was the total opposite to this one. I kinda want to break up with him, I know I will never be happy with this situation unless he changes, but then if he does change I will think it's only because I want him to and it is forced only to try to keep me. Help me. I just don't know what to do. As a result I am a ***** to him.
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Reply by foxykitten Sep 20th, 2012 at 12:35AM
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Posted by Vessa Apr 26th, 2010 at 1:11PM
Yes.
It places me in a weak and vulnerable spot.
I hate that I need it.
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Posted by goodgurl1222 May 2nd, 2013 at 1:23AM
It makes a woman feel like shes not on his mind. She's not really important. It at first creates sadness. Women will try to show him how do show affection by being affectionate first, but eventually if not reciprocated the woman will feel unloved, unimportant and will seek love elsewhere. And to the women on this site who let their men walk over them and take away their ability to feel beautiful, loved, need to stop giving into their men! Women hold the POWER! We decide if its time for sex! Not the other way around! Leave his pathetic *** whether u have kids with em or not! Leave him and be happy! Find a REAL Man that CAN LOVE U BACK!
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Posted by PassionNetLee Apr 13th, 2013 at 8:29PM
Didn't catch when this was posted but HELL YEAH IT DOES! It's a strange feeling to have. It toys with the emotions along with self esteem and self doubt. I am a spoiler! Love to spoil my love! But that's all changing...if HE can't show affection to me and well do me the way I think all goddesses should be done, than he gets nothing from me. If that pushes him away than 'kick rocks'! Lol! We were never meant to be then. I've repeatedly have talked to him about this and it gets ignored or swept under thee ol carpet. I am completely Bored! In a healthy relationship two meet half way not one way..that's leads to a dead end. Where I'm about to hit! I've also have told him that there are always a man waiting to treat a female the correct way. Some people are ok being in a relationship that's DRY! Not me! I am 38 years old and am in my third relationship. I was married for 15 years and divorced at 33. I know what it takes for a healthy relationship and trust is the main factor. But intimacy and passion is up at the top of the list. Any female or how I address all females, goddesses! A man should treat his goddess like a rare gem. In return he will be absolutely adored and loved!
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Posted by ttlyheartbroken Feb 8th, 2013 at 3:57PM
When my boyfriend and I started dating he was everything I'd ever dreamed of. He kissed me hello and goodbye and just because. Now, if I don't ask him for a kiss the first time I get one is when the alcohol kicks in and he doesn't drink that often. I've tried multiple.times to call him attention to the fact that he neglects me. He says he's not very affectionate but he's brought my self esteem and self worth to an all time low. I cry more now that I did after my last major break up. I feel so totally unloved and nothing I tell him makes him change. I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I've lost him and that he only stays with me because he's too much of a ***** to just admit he hates me and wants me to leave. I'm falling apart. He doesn't put his arm around me, he doesn't hold my hand, he doesn't TOUCH me.
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Posted by leonard2468 Jan 31st, 2013 at 2:34PM
I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and initially he sent me very romantic texts all the time, wanted sex alot, touched, hugged and kissed me and told me he loved me and now there is nothing. He becomes very moody, moans he feels ill all the time and shows me no affection. I do everything I possibly can to make him happy, I initiate all the sex, I massage him when he is stressed or has a sore back, I do everything around the house so he can relax. He seems to avoid being near me and even when I ask for a hug he wont do it. I tell him I love him and he doesnt say anything back. He even will not sit next to me and cuddle me on the sofa but when I leave the room he will cuddle the dog on the sofa. I feel extremely lonely and upset, I cry all the time and I constantly question why he has gone off me, I feel so insecure in myself and he has killed my self esteem. I have asked him if he still feels the same way about me as he used to and he wont answer me and if I try to talk to him about it he gets very angry with me and I end up feeling even me upset. What can I do?
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Posted by jen0612 Nov 7th, 2012 at 5:15PM
I keep telling my boyfriend of 2 years what i need and that it takes both of us to show affection. I don't know what else i can do to get through to him. He says because he goes with it that is him showing affection, but i definitely need him to initiate it sometimes. So yes, lack of affection equals me feeling less loved and less wanted. It does wonders for my ego, i feel so insecure.
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Reply by peelover55 Apr 1st, 2013 at 10:05PM
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Posted by uhyta Dec 24th, 2010 at 2:37AM
My boyfriend loves me to death, and i know this. but i get really down and doubtful when he doesn't show it. we've talked about it, and he said it's just because we show it in different ways, i like to get excited, and jump on him, he's perfectly fine just watching tv with his arm around me. He doesn't instigate sex much.. and i hate that it's always me who has to start it,.. it makes me feel un-sexy, but he saw it as just respecting me, and not expecting me to do it with him every time he wanted to have sex with me, and he waited for me to imply to him first that i wanted to have sex, before he jumped on me.
which in hind site is good on him, but i still want a guy who just can't hold back sometimes.. because i'm "irresistible" i want that feeling too.
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Posted by endofseptember Jul 20th, 2010 at 1:50AM
yes makes me feel both. makes me wonder whether im in the right relationship
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Posted by SunnyBelle Jul 2nd, 2010 at 2:53PM
I am so called "high maintenance" I need touchey feely, kissies, huggies, all the times. Texting is one way to stay in touch when he is away. Loved that.. Ro and I are in touch even when we are not together.
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Posted by bellatejanita Apr 26th, 2010 at 2:33PM
Yes to both questions. This is one of the biggest arguments I have with my hubby. He doesn't show much affection towards me and he used to. We might spend the entire day together and it won't be until the end of the day when he might reach over and touch me...I always point those out and show him - this is the first time you've touched me today. This is why I cheat. No amount of talking to him or writing him has helped either. It's like he just doesn't care to fix us.
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Posted by starship33 Apr 26th, 2010 at 11:52AM
my boyfriend always tell me to "let him know what he should do". this sounds weird but some men dont know.
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Posted by jessilynn83 May 23rd, 2013 at 1:30AM
I can honestly say I've gone through this with my current man. It does hurt and has actually been pushing me away. I feel like he's only affectionate when we have sex. Its starting to mess with my emotions and I'm starting to feel used and not apprcriated for the things I do but also the love I have towards him. I'm stronly feeling that our love isn't the same towards eachother. And now I went online to look up answers and or thoughts about how I should feel when he shuts me out about his son. When all I'm doing is giving him the best guidance because in this situation he's not being smart and he says I don't need to be talked to regarding his son. It hurts tremendously and were suppose to get married? This isn't okay is it?
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Posted by lross1019 May 21st, 2013 at 2:13PM
yes,i feel reject,lonely,frustrated angry,etc
i have been with him for 8 yrs,he cheated on me twice,once he said its my fault and 2nd time he denies it,it going to be 1 yr since this happened the 2nd time,im over it,but he is so distant,im getting warn out emotionally,im not sure if i want out ..
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Posted by cindywingo May 19th, 2013 at 10:54PM
MY MAN has bipolar disorder and for the first year he was so loving sweet caring intament sex was regular he went into the hpspitol they changed his meds and he is alymost like he is numb to everything no feeling no love sex never i am so confused i dont know what to do i have takedto him tried everyhing and nothing whay can i do
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Posted by butterfly2377 May 19th, 2013 at 10:48PM
makes me feel like they are getting it from somewhere else
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Posted by luvallmykids May 16th, 2013 at 1:08PM
Sad, hurt, confused, and a little fatalist. Defeated is the best description. We have been together for 10 years. 3 years ago I had a really hard time and I told him how I was feeling. I had a baby and the day I got back from maternity leave I was pink slipped. For two months my boss went around talking to other teachers on campus about my bustyness post pregnancy. My union was fighting to get jobs back and my complaint was disappeared with others to gain negotiations.
It was a down time for me and I told my husband about my down feelings. I asked him if I could lean on him for a little support and maybe some loving touch. He has not touched me or told me he loves me since. That was 3 years ago.
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Posted by blueyez26 May 6th, 2013 at 8:09AM
I've been ware .bf 10 yrs and he was very lovable and touchy feely first four yrs but now I'm the one who has to kiss goodnight make first move for intimacy I'm slim I keep very fit and have attention from other men but to be honest I want and love my .bf the same now as I did first time we met plse help just don't know what to do I've spoke to him about it now n then but ends up getting angry then I can't stop crying has he went off me as other people seem to think he's the bee's n ees any advice wild be very grateful thanks insecure emotional girl needing answers
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Posted by MrzVamp1104 May 2nd, 2013 at 2:15PM
My man has depression really bad and he says that's why he's quiet and down sometimes, which I can completely understand..but somethings gotta give. I feel like I'm always kissing him and being affectionate with him. Sometimes I do feel like he doesn't love me that much anymore like he used to and like I'm becoming less attractive to him. He tells me I'm the most beautiful girl he's ever seen and he's never gonna hurt me, that he's gonna be with me forever and he can't wait to make me his wife and have kids. He doesn't even pay attention to other women, Ever...I have a great relationship but sometimes I really feel alone and I don't know how to tell him without upsetting him and making him feel like ****...I feel like he just doesn't care sometimes...and it breaks my heart because i've been through a lot of **** in my past relationships and he's so respectful and i've fallen deeply in love with him. I just love him so damn much...
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