Ladies: would you/have you dated a man who didn't have a job?

As long as I won't become his primary income I would , but if I have to work for him that is a BIG HUGE NO NO NO.

Yeah, why not? A job doesn't make the person. The person makes the person.

I have dated a man who didn't have a job. I am currently still with my husband and he hasn't worked for around three years since Hurricane Katrina. My husband's employment doesn't matter to me because as long as I'm with him, I'm home. Not to mention, as long as I have family & friends and he has family & friends (who will take us in), we'll make it together.

I am dating a wonderful guy and he is unemployed right now . I would have missed out if i felt that made a difference .

My first husband never had a job, now I look back I realise he was always a waste of space, but lets face it how could I possibly know what I wanted when I was only 17.

Sure I have. Why not?

From a man's perspective: When I was out of work, but still receiving severance pay (I was getting full pay and benefits for almost 4 months after I was let go), I dated a woman who was at first hesitant to date me simply because I was out of work. The irony of the situation was that the relationship ended when I found another job in another state.

Hmm I really need to follow this question! ;)

My boyfriend didn't work for a while after he quit his job. It was hard because he didn't have any desire to work. He eventually went back to the same place and is still there. As for some of his friends who smoke pot every day, still live with their parents at 28, and don't work, I would never date someone like that! But if someone was temporarily out of work, that is not a big problem, as long as they are looking.

I would but it would end if he was not seriously looking for a job.

Yes, I did. It was when it was not a necessity for him to have a job. We were young. I don't know now. I've been married since college. Back in the stone age... Dating is an odd concept to think about. But, I guess I probably would not date a man without a job. If I was dating, I would be dating prospective partners, probably. But then I'm getting to an age that some guys are retired. So maybe I would date a jobless guy.

Depends, if he wasn't working cuz he didn't want to- NO WAY.

While my husband and I were dating he lost his job 2 times, one time the company closed, the second time he was laid off- both times I was there (this was before we married) and stood by him. In 2007 I was laid off from my job and didn't work for a full year and he took care of most bills till I found a new job.

No. Life is about working to survive. I understand things happen but a man who lost his job should be on his feet the next say going to interviews until he gets a job. How a man survives is in important part of him. It tells you alot about a person.

I dated a guy who didn't work for a while, but it was no big deal, because he eventually got another job.

It really depends on why he doesn't have one.

I think somebody who doesn't have a job long-term, when it conceivably possible for them to get one, or to have some kind of significant work (even voluntar in thier life) is possibly not in the place where they are ready for a mature relationship.

I don't mean to sound snobby, I understand that there are lots of good reasons why somebody might not have a job, like long term illnesses or being in between jobs, or starting anew and that's fine.

But I think sometimes you might be excused for not being drawn to the job-less guy...if it seems like he is not in a place where he is ready to take responsibility...might mean that he might not be able to support my needs in a relationship....like he might not be able to afford to come and see me or he might be too overly dependant on me in financial situations.

That said, I know that sometimes men fully support the mother's of thier children and I think this is slightly different...if I worked and had kids...it would be different too.

It really depends on the situation, but I wouldn't say it would be an awful, horrible reason not to date somebody.

I guess it would also depend on how serious you both were.
I hope this doesn't sound harsh. I don't think not having a job makes u a bad person, but it could possibly hint at other traits. (possibly).x

Yup. I was young, dumb and idealistic. I married for love. I eventually fell out of love with the passage of time, getting smart and realistic. I divorced for love of self.

yes i would --that would mean he would be around more to spend time with .

Not again...For many years the man I had 2 kids with was unemployed/self employed and my kids were raised on welfare.
It wasn't until the family moved across the country to his home town that he said he had no intention of working for the kids and I.
For 4.5 years we were stuck in the small hick town, surrounded by his family and unable to move away because employment only went to people who grew-up/where known in the area.
It took too long for us to move back to the city I grew up in. I lost contact with everyone I used to know.
Anyway, I'm not gonna go into complete detail...but if your gonna be in a relationship and start a family with a man...make sure he has the nards to be a MAN. Don't put yourself or your kids in any vulnerable positions.

Hell I am married to a guy that has no job....and has not for three years.....But when we married he had one.....And has had one for most of the 29 years that we have been together....But he is going to school to get a real great job....Or at least that is the plan...Will have to see if he can do it or not....I hope that he does.....For this is getting to be a real bummer.....