Ladies; why is losing your virginity such a big deal?

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dejaentendu90 - 22-25 years old - female

Posted by dejaentendu90 1 Jul 6th, 2012 at 11:37AM

Because sex is a big deal. Letting another human being into your body, letting them be closer to you than anyone in the world ever has, trusting them not to harm you, that's a VERY big deal. Plus it's something you will never get back.

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Posted by Alice7279 Jul 6th, 2012 at 11:48AM

I've asked this question to my friends as well. I'm 19 and a virgin and once went through a phase that I should just get it over with? it's just virginity right? But now I think to myself why would I let "some guy" get so intimate with me like that on my first time? All my friends who have said that they had lost it to someone 'not special' have regreted it. The friends who have lost it to a boyfriend who they trust did not.

Apparently when you lose your viginity a chemical is released or you become emotionally attached to the guy? And that a girl will feel more attached then a guy would? Also, EVERYONE looks back on who they lost their virginity to. Do I want to look back and think "ohh dear, how stupid was I". No, I want to look back and think "I lost it to a guy who generally cared for me".

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Reply by PenelopeParfait Jul 6th, 2012 at 12:10PM

Good answer
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Posted by NorthernStar1980 Jul 6th, 2012 at 11:40AM

It's only a big deal to the guy who's trying to bed you! You shouldn't be pressured into giving up something so sacred...your virginity is the one thing you can't get back! Wait until you are truly in love with one person and they feel the same about you, you want that moment to be special and not just a quick "hook-up!"

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Posted by morticia1969 Jul 6th, 2012 at 5:00PM

It isn't. At the time, I just considered it an inconvenience.

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Reply by HonestMach Sep 5th, 2012 at 11:49PM

Agree; I'm not a woman though... You seem to be in a minority here so far. :P
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Posted by SilenceEvermore Jul 6th, 2012 at 3:09PM

If I lose it, I want to lose it to someone who actually cherishes me and wants to spend the rest of their life with me. Lose it to a boyfriend because he "cares" about you and "loves" you? Pfft..At least if you lose it to someone you're married to he pays dearly for trying to leave you.

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Posted by Infinite9 Jul 6th, 2012 at 11:36AM

It's not, in the context of "just having sex", but the big deal part comes from finding the Right Guy, to have sex with. That's just my opinion though.

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Posted by bijouxbroussard Jul 6th, 2012 at 11:41AM

Mainly, because society tells us it is, based on religious and cultural mores. Many women are taught that sex is to be reserved for marriage and one's virginity "surrendered" only to the husband. Such attitudes have existed for centuries and don't die out easily.

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Posted by Indie42 Jul 6th, 2012 at 11:38AM

You only lose it once and it will never be found again; that, and no d-bag deserves to lose it for me.

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Posted by TrustIsEarned Jul 6th, 2012 at 11:38AM

Because it doesn't grow back. Because once done, can't be undone. Because most girls try to do this before they've experienced enough of the world to know a bit about how they will change as people as a result. Because many girls make this choice under duress and during the most tumultuous time in their life.

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Posted by DcreativeBUG Jul 6th, 2012 at 11:37AM

i honestly dont know. I think society has made us believe that its like some great milestone or something. the first time should be with someone you care about because it just feels better to be that close to someone and also you remember your first time forever.

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