Looking to get married between basic and AIT? Has anyone done this?
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Posted by TucksGirl May 26th, 2012 at 11:37PM
When are you planning to do this? my fiancé just left for basic in benning too.
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Posted by MeGettingBetter Apr 15th, 2012 at 10:11PM
Part 1/2.
You didn't state how long you'd known each other, your ages, what the quality of the relationship is like, how much trust do you both have yourselves (and in each other), what issues/problems you are currently experiencing, what service he's going into and what military job/position. Without more information, I strongly suggest taking your time, building your relationship, actively deepening the level and breadth of communication and trust between you, FIRST. Especially as he is integrated into the miliary.
"IF" the marriage is to last, a 'short' wait of 6 more months, and even up to 1-2 years, is more than reasonable to make the most of who each of you are, develop that deep trust, enjoying fully open candid communication, etc... I'm not saying your relationship isn't good, or that it won't last.... mearly stating things I believe are important, in answer to your solicititation for advice.
Being in the military usually means travel to other parts of the country, and maybe to far away parts of the world. A military spouse doesn't always have it easy. The TV drama "Army Wives" has some legitimate indications of what goes on, though they are depicting a lot of the BS that happens at the officer level. Anyway, his travel and exposure to other places, also means exposure to other people, new ideas, broadening of his mind, thoughts, feelings, mentality, attitude, etc.... Literally, in six months, and within 1-2 years, he will encounter a LOT of new people... and his thinking/feelings will change, as will his outlook on work, life, friends, girlfriend(s), desires, his personality, his place/role in life, his near-term and long-term goals, etc...
This IS a dynamic and significantly formative time for him. Not so much for you, honestly, since you are not traveling around to the extent he is, nor are you as inundated with requirements to expand your horizons like he HAS to do, nor are you exposed to great gobs of new people that you HAVE to interact with like he does (i.e. work, training, duty days, time in the field, etc...). Since your world is and will be a bit smaller.... you might not see things as he does. It will take significant effort on your part to begin to be as open-minded as he IS going to be (about life, relationships, etc..). My point with this is that he will naturally grow, his mind will expand, he'll see and 'get' into a bigger, brighter world. It isn't that he'll forget about you---he won't, but with his world expanding, he will be changing and maturing.
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Reply by MeGettingBetter Apr 15th, 2012 at 10:11PM
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Posted by DenteAvvelenato Apr 15th, 2012 at 9:02PM
I think you should wait until he gets stationed. I'm assuming this is because you all want to live together? Should have done it before basica training.
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Reply by msdoubled Apr 15th, 2012 at 9:05PM
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Reply by DenteAvvelenato Apr 15th, 2012 at 9:07PM
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Posted by Frankinweenie Apr 15th, 2012 at 8:54PM
Better wait to see where he gets stationed first
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Posted by jatpack3 Apr 15th, 2012 at 8:39PM
Getting married around Ft. Gordon?
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Reply by msdoubled Apr 15th, 2012 at 9:03PM
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Posted by Difum Apr 15th, 2012 at 8:35PM
If he is just coming out of basic he can't afford it. Hopefully it means you also have a decent paying job. Don't know about Georgia's laws.
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Reply by msdoubled Apr 15th, 2012 at 8:55PM
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Reply by Difum Apr 15th, 2012 at 8:58PM
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