Some do and have ........but not all men are this way...they feel as deeply as women and can be devastated when a relationship ends....and some women can easily detach themselves.....and move on.....But all should get rid of emotional baggage before entering into a new relationship....my opinion...:)
Very false IMHO. However it depends greatly on the situation, but typically men are good at disguising their feelings because they're "manly". Which is absolute bs tbh, but societal norms depict men with to much outward emotion as weak, or at the risk of sounding sexist, feminine. Not implying women are weak, just that they tend to be more in touch with their feelings and emotions.
Well everyone wears a mask of some kind at some point in time. To be more general though, men, at least myself and others I know, tend to keep our emotions very guarded.
False, men when they love they love deeply. They just don't come to it like we do and they don't show it the way we do. They hurt, they long, they suffer too.
I know I did.
You have very good insight. Took me 12 years to get over my first love...
I'm sorry for you both. I do hope you have found love and joy. Be happy and well! :D
False. I remember all of my mistakes.
I think the most hardest task to so is try to think like the opposite sex. In fact, I think it's impossible. When I was growing out, I had a real close male friend, who was like a brother to me. I would help him out with his girlfriends and he with my boyfriends. Fortunately, I realize that boys were different from us in more ways than anatomy. Their mindsets were different. Their thought processes were different. Their value system was different. Their peer pressure was different. Their conditioning was different. <br />
A whole host of authors have written and made videos under the title "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus." I think that title sums up the age old question better than any.
In most cases it's false. We just don't show it. It's really not cool for a guy to advertise his feelings. It doesn't mean we don't have them.
People are people.<br />
Those of you who are stating *men* are like this... you should know that alienating any group of individuals and discussing their traits as being somehow inferior, or subhuman... this is hate language. This is no less repugnant behavior that any other kind of bigotry. The one comment I saw about men being incapable of emotional complexity... wow, that was an incredibly ignorant statement. In my opinion the commenter needs to rethink her strategy for finding a mate. Or perhaps consider ending a bad relationship and finding one that is more symbiotic. The other comment taking science as a backing... that behavior pattern is typical of orangutans, not human beings. The human creature is far too complex to define using such a narrow set of parameters. There are other arguments, also citing scientific studies that are equally uncomplimentary toward female humans as well. Those are also equally inaccurate. I will not bring those up... flaming each other with that type of garbage is counterproductive and simply hurtful and without purpose.<br />
Men have the same set of feelings as women. Men feel romance as women do, men feel emotional pain as women do. Men feel despair over the loss of love just as women do. Men can detach and walk away from relationships... just as easily as women do. Men express it differently than women do. There are different social norms and pressures applied to the two genders. That causes a major distortion of what really is going on inside all human beings.
Don't worry it was the discussion that set me off more than the question... I see these questions all the time. Generally I steer clear. I've got a double-broken heart right now and it's hard to see words that invalidate even the existence of how I feel.
oh... well, my wife is neglecting me out the door... I've become so depressed and anxious and desperate I can't take it anymore and am now waiting out a deadline I've set for things to change, which they didn't.... and meanwhile as I was looking for support I found a new best friend, who I fell in love for - the real deal too. It's not hormones or infatuation. And she doesn't love me in return. Which is really as it should be. I guess... I pine over her and wait for every message we send each other.. we're best friends now and sometimes my feelings for her cause trouble. So right now I'm stuck between a woman who doesn't want me anymore and another who never may.
True. I don't think men are capable of the complex emotions women are. I think everything with them is ba<x>sed on pride. So when they're hurt it's not their feelings that have been hurt it's their pride. It also explains how they can do such callous things to women without any remorse. <br />
I personally don't think they get attached in the first place. If they like a girl it's more like staking their claim to her for other guys to see rather than him actually being infatuated with her. <br />
I think perhaps when it comes to children these things change. I don't think a man is truely capable of the type of love a woman expects from him until he's had a child ( and is actually a good and loving father to the child). I think this also can happen with their mothers depending on the guy.
You really don't understand men as well as you think you do.
I think it may depend on how old they and how many relationships etc...I would think after so many failed attemps at love you would male or female detach.
Rather true, I have detached to the point of total avoidance of even the most remote possibility of becoming "attached" again.
For me, absolutely impossible. My heart is so tender I my pain and hurt is so severe there's no way I can move on. I'm saying I can't do that anymore. I have been hurt far too bad.
Yes. Every bit I give it my all and have had it thrown away like dirty trash.
total baloney<br />
[EDIT] actually ill add an exception. true when they never developed one in the first place.
hell no,i truly detest myself for every bad thing ive ever done and any1 ive ever hurt
Sailors do it all the time.
That's an old feminist misandrist saw. Men have a horrific suicide rate after divorces.
still trying to find an answer to this question..
In my long life, I've met more men afflicted with broken hearts than I have women.
If you have a musical sensibility and respond to lyrics. listen to these wonderful old songs sung by men and composed by men and then tell me that men are not emotional!
I was on the receiving end of my break-up so I was the one who got emotional.
False, men have feeling as well as women do.<br />
Of course you'll always get the odd narcissist in both sexes.
True, I feel bad for nothing I have done and can move on straight away.
A little cold I guess but there is nothing to be done.