Fix it now before it hurts the both of you further. Communication.
Being kind to her isn't likely to work. Neither is showing her indifference. Or putting up with it.
What you need to do first is learn who she is, what she wants and why she treats you this way.
Put your put down first and be assertive, gain her respect through that. Then give her compassion and love. But don't let her walk on you. It WILL get worse if you don't correct it now.
Just know that it's not your fault. Being a stepmother is brutal.
She's 19.... Why do you tolerate that? You should talk to her Dad and both of you should give her an ultimatum... Treat you both with respect and appreciate the home you've given her... or move out. I wouldn't tolerate that from my own kids.
Inheritance from you, or her Dad? She's entitled to nothing from you, that should go to your kids, not his.
Hmmm.... That sucks!
Stop and just calm down. Many parents like you suffer from the same problem. You just have to find more common interests with her and be more understanding, give her more space. Don't force her to like you, she can't if she refuses to. Just be yourself and be able to let her relate to you and you being able to relate to you.
Show that you actually care for her and love her as well. She just needs to know you love her. Just don't hate her back. Let her hate you if she must, but you must love her. Show her your love and care and support.
Show that you can be like any other mother. Just don't force it.
Good luck. ...im just 14 I have no experience
Im sorry if it doesn't help. But that is what my stepmother did with me. She showed me she loved me and there was no way I could hate her for that.
I think she is. You don't believe it, thats why she doesn't believe you could ever be like a real mother. I'm pretty sure she is just in denial that another person like you was forced into her life. But trust me and do as I say. She is nice. You are just thinking of nurture over nature too much. It is a humans nature to love and care, and to accept love from others. I trust that you can be a great mother.
Kill her... with kindness :)
(Be extra nice to her, don't give her a reason to hate.. take the high road, but stay out of her way)
Well, I hope that doesn't happen to you.
Hook her up with a handsome boy, that has a history of being abusive to his girlfriends?.. Ask her friends, they'll let you know if anyone on their school meets the desc
If she really is as you describe her, she's a sociopath.
did you meet her before marrying her dad ?
ah ok that explains a lot . she's 19 why is she still in the house . Don't she know a lot of people are having it hard but that would mean she would have to stop thinking only of herself
yikes sooo you all created that monster
yeah we fathers do spoil our daughters . he's just barely realizing it ...lmbo
Not a good relationship to have with a step. Maybe you can talk to her about why you think, or know ... she hates you?