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I have reason to believe he and his fiance might try to kidnap my child once born. We are not married and he tried to act like this is all my fault, blamed me, and had origionally told me if i am pregnant with his child he will commit suicide because his girl told him she would leave him if i was. I don't know what to do anymore and need to contact his superior...
tig1991 tig1991 22-25, F 5 Answers Feb 4, 2013 in Military

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Let social services do it. You they could bluff off, Social Services they would likely listen too. YOu will need his social, full name, ba<x>se, branch of military. Simply send a letter to the commanding officer, whatever ba<x>se, texas and a zip.

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28 years military

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Yes. If not social services, at least through an intermediary with some kind of standing. Police, lawyer, social worker, doctor, therapist, or what-have-you. Even getting an older relative or a friend with some kind of professional designation to call on your behalf might help. If you pursue this directly yourself, you're likely to be ignored or brushed off as a nut-case or a malicious troublemaker.

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Ok...first of all.<br />
Breathe<br />
From you question, I gather your baby isnt even born yet right?<br />
If you contact your child's commanding officer if might backfire on you because his threats can in no way be substantiated in that there is no baby yet to kidnap.<br />
It could make you look like a jealous, spiteful ex girlfriend.<br />
In which case you and any future calls or complaints from you will fall on deaf ears.<br />
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If I were you, and years ago, as a separated pregnant mother with a husband in the Marine Corps, I was, I would wait until your baby is born and then after about 2 weeks, go to Family Court in your county and file for sole physical and joint legal custody of your baby.<br />
I suggest joint legal to insure that your baby's father will remain responsible for such things as child support, medical coverage, etc.<br />
If you and your child's father are not living in the same state, there is an excellent chance he will not be able to appear for the custody hearing and you will be granted custody of your child by default.<br />
Also if you file first, this will give you what is known as the home state advantage. <br />
Meaning any and all future child custody issues will be adjudicated in the state where they were first initiated unless YOU, the custodial parent, move.<br />
As the dependent of an active duty member of the military, all of your child's medical expenses will be covered.<br />
Once your baby is born, child support will be automatically deducted from his pay every month whether he likes it or not.<br />
This is not a decision or a choice he can decide or make.<br />
This is the law.<br />
Child support will be TAKEN from your child's father's GROSS pay.<br />
This means child support gets paid BEFORE everything even taxes.<br />
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If I could make a few suggestions to you, I would say...<br />
Just relax and enjoy your pregnancy.<br />
Your baby's father and his fiancée are not going to kidnap your baby nor are they going to take your baby from you.<br />
As long as you are providing a safe, stable, secure, loving home environment for your child and taking care of your child properly...nobody will take your baby.<br />
Your child's father is saying and doing this stuff for one reason and one reason only...to mess with your head...to upset you...make you cry...make you crazy.<br />
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Rise above his and her idiocy (extremely stupid behavior) and don't play into their drama.<br />
Eat and rest properly.<br />
Exercise but don't over do.<br />
Drink plenty of water and milk.<br />
See your doctor regularly and take your prenatal vitamins.<br />
Set up your baby's room and prewash all your baby's clothes.<br />
Watch comedy, read uplifting books.<br />
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If AFTER your baby is born, the threats and harassment continue, you will need to contact the JAG (Judge Advocate General) office at the ba<x>se or post on which your child's father is stationed and file a formal complaint against him.<br />
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30 years ago I was in a like situation. <br />
Thankfully I had my parents to talk sense into me, keep me calm, keep me sane!

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life is full of surprises and disappointments too....... just be who you are and face it like a tigress.......... get 'em all baby

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