My best friend in the world is choosing her bf over me. idk if she realizes, but it just hurts so much. idk what to do!
We've been best friends since freshman year (its the end of soph year now) and they've been dating for 5 months. every time i try to spend time with her, her bf is just all over her and she lets it happen. its really annoying and hurtful and IVE TRIED TALKING TO HER. the other day i called her with exciting news while she was with him. the tone she used with me broke my heart. i just wanted to cry. i dont want to lose her, but i already feel as if we're drifting apart. he also doesnt help because every time she "chooses me" he sulks. we were all three on the bus home from school together and she sat with me and he was just mumbling to our friend about how "she always chooses lauren"(my name is lauren) when thats not true at all!!!! the whole thing is just breaking my heart. im losing my best friend and i dont know how to make it stop.
5 Answers to "My best friend in the world is choosing her bf over me. idk if she realizes, but it just hurts so much. idk what to do!"
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sorry you feel the way you do. but, in reality, it is what it is. don't push her to choose between you and her bf. just remember, when the romance is over, you will still be there when she needs you. don't throw away a good friendship over a guy !! it's not worth it. :)
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People go through certain cycles at certain ages, and it would be wrong to try and stop it. If your cycle is not the same as hers, be a good friend and let her live her life. Go elsewhere for your entertainment and let her know you are still there for her when she is ready. She probably is in the infatuation stage still and that is really hard to break through.
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When you are truly best friends with someone, it does not effect the friendship when another person is added to the mix, or removed from the mix. Best friends always remain at the end of the day. You may not see that best friend for years, but when the day arrives and you see each other again, the years apart seem to be but a few moments. When a best friend needs help, your there. It doesn't matter that the person was living a lifestyle we did not approve of, or involved with people we do not like. Best friends never NEED to control the other.
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Let her get hurt and be there for her in the end= a one true friend.
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i dont think he would ever hurt her though. but honestly i just want them to break up. the way they act together is sickening
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Lol love makes you do really stupid things. You just have to understand she is human...a human girl at that. He makes her happy things will calm down and become less passionate and as you put it sickening because in time they will learn to be themselves around each other :)
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Posted by Vessa 1 May 31st, 2012 at 9:31PM
Honestly, I'm not sure you can stop it. All you can do is sit down and quietly tell your friend how you feel. I lost my best friend over something similar when I was seventeen.
Strange things happen when hormones kick in. It happens in both males and females, and it isn't anything that anyone can do anything about. It's about crushes and infatuation and temporary insanity as much as anything else. It could very well be that your friend can't do much about her feelings right now, and it takes a really mature type to balance friendships when she is romantically involved. I'm sorry you are going through this type of thing. It happens so often! It could be that one day you will get your friend "back", and her perspective will right itself a bit. Right now, it could be that she is just somewhat addicted to this guy and the romance.
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Reply by laxgirl26xo May 31st, 2012 at 9:41PM
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