My best friend read my facebook messages, and I was saying the nastiest insults about her... Any advice?
We were in a silent fight at the time.. I called her the bitchiest things in the book.
She read them and will not talk to me. I've sent her paragraphs after paragraphs of text messages, and she's responded, but only with things saying I'm mentally ****** up... I just don't know what to do with myself. She is slowly getting everyone to hate me. What can I do? Should I write her a letter? What is my best chance of getting her back? I told her it was due to jealousy and just anger over the silent fight.. I promised her nothing like it would ever happen again. She's softened, but not enough to be real friends or even communicate normally.
She had been a huge ***** to me beforehand and I needed to vent. I clearly didn't do it the right way, and I shouldn't have been saying that things I did. I realize it was a horrible thing to do, and I would take it back if I could, but I just feel so alone and I miss her so much. I said the things because I was just so angry in the moment and didn't think about the consequences. She hacked into my facebook and read my messages about her, after we had made up. By this time I had told everyone I had talked to about her that I was over it, and wanted to start fresh, and regretted saying everything I had said about her. But she saw them, and I feel so alone and miss her beyond belief. I know I don't deserve forgiveness, but I wasn't acting like myself which I typed those things.
18 Answers to "My best friend read my facebook messages, and I was saying the nastiest insults about her... Any advice?"
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Just stop being friends. Clearly you don't like or respect one another.
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I guess no one practices " if you have nothing nice to say, dont say anything" and for sure dont post or say it publicly for the world to hear and see. guess its time for you to grovel for forgiveness or move on and find a new best friend.
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take your own advice mr condescending.Like (1)
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nothing condescending in that statement. simple truth. Im fully aware people get upset and say things they shouldnt on occasion, I also know I try to do it at home, so its only venting instead of making a bad situation worse, and ruin a friendship.
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OWN UP TO IT !
You had the guts to say it behind her back now work up the guts to repeat them to her face.Like (2)
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Get a new best friend....maybe a blind one.
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I find that offensive! I felt up a blind girl once.
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Haha xDLike (1)
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You have just learned a life long lesson. You will never forget this and hopefully it will change the kind of friend you will be for the rest of your life. You are however, not alone.
I did something like that when I was in high school. Spoke out of emotion without thinking and hurt someone's feelings(said some really nasty stuff)...and everyone else (our other friends) heard about it...and I couldn't take it back. Not my grandest moment in time.
If you have aplogized, said you're sorry and meant it then you can do nothing else, but move on and be a better person forever more. You can't control what your freind feels about it, or what she does. You can only do anything about about you !!
Forgive yourself and never do it again....
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Thank you so much.
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you posted those nastiest message on your wall "publicly"? Or just a "private message" she saw it only after she hacked into your FB account?.....
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Next time, vent to EP instead. And, you probably need to just move on. Defriend her and chalk it up to a learning experience for you. Remember, words can never be taken back once out....
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"BEST FRIEND"? Really??
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Yeah, grow the hell up and learn to not be a complete ***** to your friends.
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Lol to all of these answers--how real they are.
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well number one if you have something to say you should say it to her, andwath what you say or you take a cchance on loosing your best friend. Now the only thing you can do is appologize and apolgize on facebook that still may not be enough. You have to earn that persons respect now.
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Tell her not to read your Facebook messages. Like if I break into someone's house and I find stuff I don't like, it's my fault for going in there.
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Why did you say those things?
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you're royally ******, nothing can save you! And you've last a friend for being a back stabbed!!
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Don't be surprised if you've lost a friend. Why would you do that ?
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What a nice "best friend" you are.
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Stop pretending to be her friend.
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Best Answer (Chosen by Voting):
Posted by fourthtot Aug 17th, 2012 at 8:50PM
Stop being a ****** friend.
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