Don't go to a counsellor. No matter what the problem is the counselor will side more with you, make him fell like he is being made fun of. I have been there. Masculinity is down played and femininity is raised. And yes if you go you will find I'm telling the truth. I was told I was being selfish because i wanted to go fishing for a weekend with my friends but she, my wife,. was always going with the girls. I told the councillor she needed a shrink and went on my trip anyway. I liked that she went with the girls. all couples need a little space. But to be told fishing or hunting was primitive and not needed with the councillor agreeing was a joke. She was supposed to support masculine and feminine needs. she went all feminine. And from what I understand the male counselors do the same. find a way to settle it yourself. Instead of looking at what drive the both of you crazy, look at what you both enjoy in each other. Start there.
Every couple has fights, it's a natural part of relationships, you have to accept it's going to happen. It's the way you fight and resolve conflict that matters. There's a good book you could check out Gottman's "7 principles for making marriage work", and the author gives lectures about it on Youtube for a brief overview. Hope you guys work it out, best of luck :)
best to dump him, will never work. he will wind up abusing you.
A counselor(?) just gives you the tools and helps guide. Much prefered over a therapist.