A counselor(?) just gives you the tools and helps guide. Much prefered over a therapist.
Don't go to a counsellor. No matter what the problem is the counselor will side more with you, make him fell like he is being made fun of. I have been there. Masculinity is down played and femininity is raised. And yes if you go you will find I'm telling the truth. I was told I was being selfish because i wanted to go fishing for a weekend with my friends but she, my wife,. was always going with the girls. I told the councillor she needed a shrink and went on my trip anyway. I liked that she went with the girls. all couples need a little space. But to be told fishing or hunting was primitive and not needed with the councillor agreeing was a joke. She was supposed to support masculine and feminine needs. she went all feminine. And from what I understand the male counselors do the same. find a way to settle it yourself. Instead of looking at what drive the both of you crazy, look at what you both enjoy in each other. Start there.
I never said it would work. I never said it wouldn't work. And yes, been there, and know that counselors side more with the woman. I was told to be more "Talkative and sensitive to her needs". That's describing another woman. I don't fit that bill. And don't apologize for it.
What you write, may truly reflect your experience... However you have to accept there are good and bad practitioners in all professions. Did you try a different counsellor or give up on the first one that you didn't get on with? I went to three different counsellors before I found the right one, mx:))
Nope. I lost a good job in between and she left for a man with money. I divorced her and it was the best and smartest thing I had ever done
Every couple has fights, it's a natural part of relationships, you have to accept it's going to happen. It's the way you fight and resolve conflict that matters. There's a good book you could check out Gottman's "7 principles for making marriage work", and the author gives lectures about it on Youtube for a brief overview. Hope you guys work it out, best of luck :)
best to dump him, will never work. he will wind up abusing you.
I assume that you mean therapist or counsellor (counselor if you are american). As a counsellor is a particular type of therapist, you could go with either, provided s/he offers relationship counselling. Good luck to you are all respect for your willingness to invest in your relationship. mx:))