My bf and i got into a fight and he broke a window and scared me. i called the cops and now he is drinking aw?

violence is bad......vilolence and alcohol is REAL bad.....best you give that boy some space till he decides to give up the smashing and breaking things - otherwise one day it will be YOU ......... very high chance he has some issues he need to work out before being capable of sustaining a healthy relationship .....find yo'self another man girl

He acted like an idiot and broke a window. You got scared and called the police. Now considering there is a no tolerance for domestic issues and that someone gets charged (at least where I am) He now has that on his record. Put yourself in his shoes, would you not be pissed?

I am not saying he was in the wrong, he most definitely was an idiot to act out physically and aggressively, however he was angry at you and instead of you took it out on a window.

If you love him, let him know how sorry you are and that you are worried about him. Have a calm conversation without the voices getting elevated. If he reacts poorly and doesn't share the same feelings for you, you may have to make the hard decision to force him out of your life. You should never settle for someone that doesn't have the same feelings for you because it will only hurt you more in the end. Stay strong and good luck.

tell him to leave.

I've been there before. If he doesn't see that he has done anything wrong then he needs to leave or get help. Okay I'm sounding hypocrytical right now but you don't deserve this and the fear will come back to haunt you at the worst time. Trust me. Get away from him until he is sober and then try talking. You can't help his anger problems until he wants help. Find a safe place and go away for a while. And just to be on the safe side keep an overnight bag packed WHERE HE CAN'T FIND IT and have someone you can trust to turn to. Good luck.

Well if he didn't hit you or didn't threaten you, calling the cops is not the answer. Unless it wasn't his place. Some of us, when we can't find the words, we beat them out of inanimate objections. When someone feels they are already powerless and you bring in the biggest power tripping regime we have, it's hard to get back to a comfort level. Give it time and figure out the triggers. And get some glazing caulk and a new window pane.

If this is not the first time, I would walk, hon...he'll find you once he's learned to control his temper, but maybe you'll have found someone by then. I'm sorry that he showed you his limits in such a way.

Get a RO against him and arrange to move out. Understand that eventually he will hit you and then start beating you everytime he gets drunk, high, or pissed. My sister first husband was like that.

First: Get the cops out of the picture. Cops will never improve any situation. This is between you and him and you don't really need people with guns standing around. Sh1t like this happens once in awhile. No need for panic. People do crazy sh1t like this and you just have to chalk it up to being people. This really isn't any more "bad" or "violent" than the way he makes love to you or other act of passion. You can't really have one and think that the other doesn't have the possibility of surfacing somewhere. You're just seeing his shadow right now. The problem isn't you. You should be breaking windows together and fu(king the world.

Kick it with him, drink a little beer or an alcoholic beverage of your choice remember the sweet times and enjoy the fu*king summer. Outlaws forever! :)

(this will be easier without police around...)

His problems belong to HIM. You need to keep yourself safe and you don't need all the drama.

are you dating my boyfriend? lol. It is not funny buit you need to try to rralize he may not be for you. iam living in hell trying to get out of this situation and can nto and trust me it will escalate. It will be more violent. He will tell you he loves you he is sorry and the cycle begins again when you fight and he breaks a glass over your head and you call the cops ad he kills you. I ma just saying these things will hapopen. I have to live it . Leave him if you can and never look back/..