My bf is leaving for BCT in May for the National Guard. We have been together 4years, should we break up?

No. Personally, I dont think couples should break up just for the reason that one is joining the military. And much less the National Guard. Unless hes deployed, when he comes back from training, hes going to be living where he wants, even on active duty, unless he gets deployed.

Here's what the Guard has to say about it on their website.

"You’ll train at a military base during BCT (10 weeks) and AIT (from six to 52 weeks, depending on your MOS). After that, most of your service and training will be in your own state and community. You’ll be able to live at home—not in military housing—while you’re in the Guard. You’ll continue your civilian job or go to school, then train one weekend a month at an armory or facility close to home. You’ll also attend Annual Training (AT) for two weeks, usually during the summer and usually at a location away from your hometown.

In the event of a deployment, whether domestic or overseas, you’ll travel and live with your unit. But as soon as your mission is over, you’ll continue to live and serve in your home community—as a true Citizen-Soldier."

So I say again, dont break up just for that reason, specially since its only the guard.

Of course you should break up! There is something seriously wrong with your boyfriend.

Never trust a man who prefers to run away from his girlfriend, family, friends or loved ones so that he can live side-by-side with other men he does not know. That is not normal nor is it healthy.

Think long and hard about the choice your boyfriend is making. He is willing to risk his life killing strange men he does not know when their is a young woman YOU who wants him home.

Do you love him? I have a couple of friends, she came to Uni and we met there, he messed on for a year and then in 2nd year he took off to New Zealand for a year out. They agreed to stay together and when he got back proposed. Go figure, they're married and happy, so something long distance can be done, can even make you stronger.

All that being said, I ended up breaking up with a girl I was completely in love with when we tried to be together long distance, so while I know it can be done, it's really hard, and it's your call as to whether you want to put yourself through that. Make a call, if you both love each other and you feel you can come through anything by working together, then you should probably make a go of it, imho

Why would you want to break up? I think that this being a tough time for both of you you'd want to work to stay together. Not find reasons to break up. Try letters, Skype, e-mail, care packages, photos....whatever you can to keep your relationship strong.

Hmmm... What does that have to do with your relationship?? ;)