My bf refuses to marry me. We've been together 10yrs and he says he loves me. Is it me? What should I do?
13 Answers to "My bf refuses to marry me. We've been together 10yrs and he says he loves me. Is it me? What should I do?"
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Marriage won't make you relationship any better, if that's what you're hoping for. You obviously have communication problems as it is, so think carefully about what you really want and with whom you want it.
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I'm not trying to make our relationship better, I just wanna take that final step. If he gave me a valid reason not to get married then I would happily accept that. It just seems as though I love him more.
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To some people marriage just isn't the ultimate sign of love.
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i hate to say this. is it because he is just so used to being around you, but is not head over heels with you?
i would say that you guys should take a special trip somewhere. If he does not propose within a month after the trip... end it.Like (1)
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Call a good Lawyer. Then, we can go Camping.
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Perhaps he has seen the worst of marriage with his own parents or relatives or friends and doesn't want to wreck what he has with you. OR...
He is in a quandary regarding where his life is going, and is scared of commitment. OR...
He loves his freedom and maybe is playing the field behind your back, and that you are his gullible safety net.
Did you ask him why? Did he provide a reason?Like (1)
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He's getting everything he wants already without a commitment. You want a commitment which is understandable. Maybe you need to move on and see what happens. If he loves you, he will ask you to marry him.
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maybe he doesn't think anything would change and doesn't want to spend money on a wedding
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Silly boy. 10 years is more than long enough.
What can you do? I guess that depends onhow much you love him. If you tully love him then your kind of trapped and if he is stubborn then there is probably nothing you can do.Like (1)
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No man in his right mind would get married.
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Statistically it makes more sense to liquidate your assets and go and place half your money on black at the roulette table. At least with roulette there's a chance that you'll end up richer whereas with marriage there's a 50% chance that you'll lose half your assets but no way of actually making money.
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Some men are very commitment afraid. If he won't marry you, but is faithful, how important is a marriage certificate for you? Only you can decide that. Does he want to have children someday? Do you? What kind of principles do you both believe in? He can certainly love you alot, but being with him may always mean you don't have that ring on your finger. You have to decide if that's acceptable to you.
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it's not about the certificate, is about showing or friends and family we love each other and are committed to each other for life. It wouldn't be such an issue if he just gave me a valid reason, but since he can't and the way he has treated me at certain points of our relationship makes me think maybe i'm nit God enough for him and he's just settled with me until something better comes along.
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60% of marriages, end in Divorce. Most always initiated by the wife.
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what was his reason for not marrying you?
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He doesn't really have one. He just flat out refuses.
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I'd press the issue if I were you. That's just not acceptable IMHO. Does he really love you or is he, heaven forbid, really using you?
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Well think about it what do you get out of marriage? What does he get out of marriage? Males don't get much out of marriage majority of the time so yea.
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If you are on different pages, wanting different things ..you need to consider if you want to be with him.
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Best Answer (Chosen by Voting):
Posted by MisterManners Mar 18th, 2013 at 8:52AM
I don't believe in marriage. It doesn't make me incapable of love.
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