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Posted by onehappyman Jun 3rd, 2011 at 5:05PM
It is not your fault. A man never hits a woman. Especially not the woman he cares about. Let me give you an example. I was married when I was 20. My then wife (now divorced) was a horrible person. She pushed every button I had and even found a few new ones. Mentally, she drove me to the edge. I got angry with her many, many times. Very angry. But I never laid a hand on her. It's called respect. While I respected her as a person and a spouse less and less as time went by, I still had a basic human respect for her as a female. This may have been the first time he hit you, but it won't be the last. He's already crossed that line and the next time it will be easier to cross. You are far too young to start living your life being afraid of upsetting him. You will never be happy like that. I have a niece just older than you and I can tell you with no hesitation that if a boyfriend ever hit her it will be the last time he ever hits anyone.
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Reply by getdare12356416514a May 23rd, 2011 at 10:11AM
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Reply by onehappyman May 23rd, 2011 at 10:29AM
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Posted by thehulk May 25th, 2011 at 3:11AM
I HATE 'MEN' WHO HIT WOMEN! - Those against domestic violence. Real men dont hit
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Posted by wanderingsage May 25th, 2011 at 1:44AM
Leave him and tell someone
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Reply by girlpowers May 22nd, 2011 at 8:27AM
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Reply by Cosreal May 22nd, 2011 at 9:25PM
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Posted by certifiable May 22nd, 2011 at 10:48PM
It's never your fault ok , he'll only get worse and the longer you stay the more he will kill your self esteem and soul .
Mine didn't start till around 3 years in .
It's not love , he doesn't love you .
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Reply by girlpowers May 22nd, 2011 at 8:46AM
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Reply by Nortong89 May 7th, 2012 at 5:18PM
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Posted by Kohen May 28th, 2011 at 11:36AM
men should respect women according to the word of the lord
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Reply by morganlee May 23rd, 2011 at 10:29AM
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Reply by onehappyman May 23rd, 2011 at 10:36AM
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Posted by wordperfect May 23rd, 2011 at 3:45AM
I believe you are correct with your assessment of why males may lash out….however, the cultures that ‘punish’ women with beatings should not be accepted in ANY way shape or form, not just in ‘our’ society. Perhaps men who beat women (or men, for that matter) should have their compulsion beaten out of them….then, they can associate the pain they inflict with the pain response they receive.
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Posted by Tawny26 May 23rd, 2011 at 4:08PM
you need to leave him asap it might be just once now but it will happen again and he will say the same i dint mean to hurt u or u made me. and he will more than lkely twist it to make it feel like it is your fault for getting hurt. im telling this cuz i was hitting serveal too many times i know how the cycle works. please take my advice and leave tell ur mom tell ur friend get support. just leave No man should ever raise his hands to a wonman ever. i hope u get out soon . much love
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Reply by girlpowers May 23rd, 2011 at 2:59AM
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Reply by blehtolife Sep 25th, 2012 at 12:34PM
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Posted by burstin2go May 22nd, 2011 at 9:19PM
My own rule is 'the first hit is the last'.
Pack up and walk away - he's shown you his true colours, and they're not very pleasing ones
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Posted by Selvaria Jun 1st, 2011 at 5:35PM
Hit him back twice as hard if he persists.
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Reply by morganlee May 23rd, 2011 at 10:30AM
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Reply by MugiwaraBlair Jan 14th, 2012 at 9:53PM
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Posted by B3lla01 May 22nd, 2011 at 9:32PM
Okay then, you need to rephrase that and say "My NOW EX- BOYFRIEND hit me". My advice is walk away and don't look back. When a person resorts to physical violence, that is a clue how you guys are going to handle disagreements every time.
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Reply by girlpowers May 22nd, 2011 at 8:28AM
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Reply by B3lla01 May 22nd, 2011 at 8:40AM
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Posted by AquariusMe May 22nd, 2011 at 9:26PM
Uh-oh. You're playing the role already by saying it was your fault, expect it to happen again. You can't make someone react unless they want to in the first place. If you weren't threatening his life with actual physical/mortal danger, he has no excuse. He needs to grow up and control his tantrums. Listen to everyone; you're better off without him. At least step back from the relationship and just be friends (for a long while).
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Reply by girlpowers May 23rd, 2011 at 3:01AM
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Posted by mastadon May 22nd, 2011 at 7:38PM
Woman or wife beating is in the genes. Not all men beat women or would beat a women but there are men out there who have no control and need medical help
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Posted by ShimmeringBlack Jun 1st, 2011 at 4:16AM
First off Before everyone starts going on about men shouldnt hit women blah blah blah. You know who you are tex... I dont believe he knows some of the women i know. if he hits you just for pushing his buttons he has a anger issue.and it will happen again if you provoke it..If you are fighting with him and you slap him best thing for him to do is walk it off if you dont let him walk it off and continue to push im sure he will hit you again...best thing to do is step back and ask yourself do you want this? Im sick of these doucebags that get on and say a real man dont hit women Blah Blah Blah Like by saying that puts a superman cape on him and he will scoop you up and save you from your boyfriend.There are some real ******** out there its you that has to figure out if he is one of them . And if he is You got to assure yourself that you deserve better and find it .
Peace Shimmeringblack
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Posted by Moonclaw May 28th, 2011 at 11:39AM
Awwwwwww! Your engaged thats always fun! I mean im way too young but you know what i mean. Well... I think you should keep going out together. You both really love each other. I bet you two will have alot of fun! So i say go for him! Just watch his temper now in then to make sure what days are for play and what days are not. I hope you have a great wedding in December!!!! Remember though if he does hit you again and its not a good reason and even if its 20 years away HIT HIM BACK IN THE NOSE! Thats only if he hits you for no reason.
Have a good wedding!
P.S. People!!!! If you think boys are stronger than girls think again! Im in middle school and im the strogest one there. Oh look im a girl! So stop making exuses about boys being stronger than girls because its just a threat and girls think its real. But its not!! There too scared to fight back!
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Reply by bacardi870 May 31st, 2011 at 3:26PM
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Posted by lostbutfinding May 22nd, 2011 at 7:37PM
It's time for you to move on. Finding reasons that it's your own fault is common. In the end, he hit you. Time for you to move on to someone who won't. There's no middle ground.
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Posted by SoftCoreBoy May 22nd, 2011 at 8:48AM
He will be in control of your mind if you take the blame for what he did to you. I believe that you can get another boyfriend within 24 hours.
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Reply by girlpowers May 22nd, 2011 at 8:48AM
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Reply by LadyIndiscretion Nov 17th, 2012 at 1:37PM
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Posted by DAW2012 Nov 6th, 2011 at 1:26AM
so you had to go to the hospital what did they say they most of ask what happen? so I guess you lied to them.You should have told us every thing from the beginning now that I reed all the remarkes and your answers It looks like you got your wait up call and did nothing about it.How old are you? Has this happened before with someone else.What would you tell your girlfriend if she told you she was hit? I think you need a good spanking and I mean a spanking(not a beating) for lying to the doctorswhat did you tell them and what have you done about it. you should find someone to talk to this is not the place because you will go nuts with all the answers. you need to go away or even go home for awhile and talk to your parents and think about it. I am sorry i was harsh with you but what I see is that you are blaming yourself not the right person and he is thinking he got away with it.
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Posted by Deepressed May 28th, 2011 at 11:39AM
I fully agree with Alittlehappier's answer. I also have an ex that pushed every button she could find, she cheated, lied goaded me, but I never crossed that line. It wasn't until after we split up that i realized that she had been beaten when growing up. Somehow she associated being abused in that way with love.
From your question, i don't think that is your case. Please for your own sake leave him and never look back. Once it has happened, it will happen again and with increasing frequency. nobody should live like that. You think it was your fault? perhaps you made him mad but there is NO excuse for physical, mental or verbal abuse. Certainly there will be disagreements (fights) but if they degrade to that level then it is way too dangerous to stay together. Again get out NOW!!! Please!
If not for yourself, what if you have a kid together? is that the right environment for a child to be in?
You deserve and will have better.
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Posted by Surie May 24th, 2011 at 7:10PM
Sorry, i have to be honest after this event your relationship will never be the same again. Its time to move on, better now than after getting married and getting kids. Right?
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Reply by boneca33 May 25th, 2011 at 4:21PM
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Posted by getdare12356416514a May 23rd, 2011 at 10:15AM
You shouldn't ask questions like this on the internet. He never did it before and he apologized. I don't think he'll do it again.
By the way, I don't say its ok to hit a woman but when you are angry you may do thinks you normally don't do. It happened once and I'm sure it won't happen again.
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