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lightyearsjenijen lightyearsjenijen 26-30, F 7 Answers Jul 28, 2010

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First he needs to realize he is never content. I saw a TV show called Everybody Loves Raymond. And the main character, Raymond, his wife tells him he is pessimistic. He realizes that he was raised that way by his parents. And also realizes in some weird way he is content as a pessimist. That he is never happy unless he is unhappy, perhaps because having a less than good enough life is familiar to him and also comfortable to just sit in.<br />
If you love him as much as you say you do, which I believe you do, then you will work with him on this. Talk about it with him. Ask him to give examples of what he is dissatisfied with. Then tell him the good thing about that aspect of his life; give him a new perspective that way. Tell him that everything does not need to be perfect and he will never be happy unless he stops obsessing so much over that. <br />
So at the same time you try and help him with new views, he needs a "megalomaniac outlet". Something he can work on and tire over making perfect. Essentially megalomaniacs are just misguided perfectionists. Let him take up an art, learn to sing or play a musical instrument. Painting, especially writing. As a writer I bet he would be very happy with writing. There is always something to make better in writing and so he could work on that when he tends to feel discontent. Teach him that being discontent is not necessarily a bad thing. That if he is unhappy he can take the initiative to make things better, and he can also accept his life as is, and learn to love it with all the ups and downs. When a problem arises I find there are two choices- change or accept.

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i think the important thing is whether he loves you/is content with you or not. If not, then you would be better off leaving him, before he finds someone else

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The big question in my mind is why would you love a megalomaniac who is never content with anything in his life. This does not sound like a lovable person. It certainly does not sound like a person who will be capable of being loving in a lasting relationship.<br />
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You really need to examine yourself and figure out why you are attracted to someone who will destroy you and make you extremely unhappy.

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im back to square one again... we do love each other so much, we never fight. I give him space he gives me space. he has a stable job a good one has his own place... i do too. <br /><br />
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i gave him time to figure himself out right now. i told him whatever makes you happy honey go for it. i love him so unconditionally it breaks my heart thinking he would tell me one day its not me he wants. but i would let him go.

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Ok start dating ME....:)))))))))) that will make him jealous.... and definitely want U moore....

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haha hey tony... you made me smile there.<br /><br />
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i hope its that easy.<br /><br />
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i need some help myself too. i have social phobia. havent establish deep meaningful friendships here in the US yet.

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tell him to propose you as asap or you are goin with realmac

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Hope that love alone is enough. Negative people who think they have been handed a raw deal (life) never change.

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