My boyfriend just told me he has cancer and is dying. how do i deal with it?
my boyfriend distanced himself from a few days ago so i thought he had issues with me. but then when we fought earlier, he told me why he was acting that way. he has cancer. doesn't have much time to live. two months at most. he knew about it for a while and kept it from me because he was scared. i am so devastated and i don't know what to do. i am not mad at him, i'm scared. he's my first boyfriend i hoped he was my last. i love him so much. i don't know how to deal with this. they said there isn't any more hope but i'm not giving up on him. on anything. we live miles away from each other. he can't ride on airplanes anymore and i have school and i'm broke so i can't go to him. help me, please. i'm so restless right now and i don't know what to do. i can't even be there for him. he doesn't want anyone to see him sick and suffering. he wanted me to forget him and move on but i can't. we both know i can't. thank you
6 Answers to "My boyfriend just told me he has cancer and is dying. how do i deal with it?"
Posted by MisterGrey Jan 10th, 2013 at 4:36AM
I know it's very hard for you honey but you have to carry on as normal, especialy with yor boyfriend. He knows what he has and how it's going to affect his life and he's had to deal with that personally first but the last thing he'll want is everyone keep reminding him that he's dying or telling him how upset everyone is.
Keep the chat happy and positive, talk about your day and your life and even reshare happy moments you've spent together. Crying and grieving before he is gone will only make him feel worse himself and make his last days very depressing.
Ask about his life, his family and his childhood and what his views and dreams have been up til now. When he finally departs you will lose him physically, but at least you can feel happier knowing you knew him as best as you possibly could.
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Reply by chocoxx Jan 10th, 2013 at 4:39AM
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Reply by MisterGrey Jan 10th, 2013 at 4:48AM
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Posted by chimbie88 Jan 10th, 2013 at 4:27AM
I'm so sorry... Maybe talk on skype?
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Posted by Adstars Jan 10th, 2013 at 4:26AM
Accept it as soon as you can so you can be normal (or close to normal) with him during the last weeks of His life.
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Posted by Ladyapplegarth Jan 10th, 2013 at 4:26AM
love him till his last breathe....tell him to spend his remaining days with you....
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Posted by IMAGINATIONATWORK Jan 10th, 2013 at 4:26AM
There were no signs of illness that u could see
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Reply by chocoxx Jan 10th, 2013 at 4:28AM
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Posted by Galaxy2 Jan 10th, 2013 at 4:25AM
What kind of cancer does he have?
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Reply by chocoxx Jan 10th, 2013 at 4:26AM
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Reply by Galaxy2 Jan 10th, 2013 at 4:30AM
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