It's been my experience with the guy that I'm seeing now that in a LDR the BIGGEST enemies are the 'friends'.... especially if most of those friends are in the party scene. This almost ended our relationship. IF you are serious about this guy and think you all have a future I suggest you all find a way to be in the same town....otherwise, kiss it goodbye or at the very least VERY rocky for a long time.
Guys seem to buy into the idea that wanting to 'talk' with that special someone is letting that person 'control and manipulate' their schedule....often followed by the ever popular from close friends (not gender specific) if she's like this NOW how will she be if you move-in together or God forbid get marry? Unfortunately, your feeble-minded boyfriend (they all are) cannot get over such a question and will obsess with the question until he either comes clean and tells you what all the wanting to put distance between you is about or he withdraw so much the relationship falls apart.
He has to know that YOU are the single BEST thing that has happen to him and that life without you is worthless! That all the opinions in the world don't mean a thing because YOUR opinion is the ONLY one that matters to him and that keeping you happy is the ONLY thing that makes him happy....when you get him to realize that then you will be able to continue your LDR or better yet be ready for marriage. :) What I've found very helpful in accomplishing this is to stand your ground on what YOU expect and WANT out of a relationship, let him know that you aren't interested in playing games and you are looking for forever and if he doesn't want that then it's best if you all don't talk anymore because you don't want to WASTE your time or pass up OTHER opportunities! Say it sweetly and MEAN it!!!! Doesn't work if you are bluffing.....do it and step back and watch it all fall into place!
Best of luck to you!
You have laid your cards on the table, which is good, I can't understand the sudden turn around with him.. I'd give him a bit more time , see how it pans out... if he still won't come to the party I'd call it off... it's a bummer but you can't hang around waiting.
I wouldn't want to guess what might be going through his mind, maybe he just hates talking on the phone. But I have a very close friend who isn't much for phone chatter. We have Known each other for 4 years and he calls me every single evening before he goes on duty. We live 2hours away from ea. other and he shows how much he cares with each call. Texting is soooo impersonal and I don't think its asking too much for your guy to take a few minutes out of his day to talk to you if he really loves you and wants to be with you. Just my opinion.......
Get rid - I am about to do the same - If they not unemployed, married.... they gay... you wont win!
Well, some people just don't like talking on the phone, maybe he's one of them. That said, I think it's important to talk to someone in a more interactive form than texting or facebook messaging at least, I like instant messaging for phone call replacing, so maybe suggest that as common ground. If he's really just sending you a message or two a day, try to talk to him and tell him it's not enough contact for you and that you want more from him, just avoid sounding too demanding or needy. It can be tricky.
Toss a coin. Heads, your a fikhead. Tails , he is a fikhead.