Tell him you need some time to think about it as it is a big decision, and it is very early in the relationship.
Seriously, what's the rush? If in fact it turns out he's "the one", then you're going to be spending a lifetime living with him anyway, doing stuff like yelling through the bathroom door while he's on the sh*tter asking "honey, where'd you leave the car keys??" and why would you rush into THAT. Enjoy the dating period for what it is. And if he's NOT "the one", things get a lot more complicated to end a relationship when you are living together.
too soon! don't! why is he rushing you? take it slow and when you're ready, you will know. if he can't wait to have you move in, there's got to be some insecurity issues on his part and dependency needs. better to find those out while having your own space than moving in and getting trapped.
I do. You can't go from A to Z in a couple of weeks. Living with someone you hardly know can be a real nightmare. An expensive nightmare. And the others are right, anybody wanting to move too quickly is insecure that they'll lose you if they don't catch you right away. And those can ultimately spiral downhill quickly to domestically violent relationships. I'd tell him that you're flattered, but that you're not ready to play house with someone you're just getting to know; that living together is a serious commitment; signing leases is a legal obligation, and you'd like to leave your life options open. Tell him that if there comes a time when you think you're ready to make such a serious commitment, you can revisit the subject then, after you're both certain you feel compatible enough to "embark on such a journey." Otherwise you're going to need a life boat. That you just don't think it's realistic this early in the game to even be really discussing such things. Anything other than, "Oh, silly me... I just want to see your beautiful face all day"; like pouting or anger or any other emotion that makes you feel uncomfortable? Get your runnin' shoes and change your number.
Say its over and run as fast as you can from that controlling psycho!
Why would you even consider moving in with someone you hardly know.Living together should be a commitment like marriage so get to know the person very well first and if you love them and are compatible then think about it then.
Tell him to keep his on your not ready.
Do you ever watch Judge Judy? A vast % of her cases are young women trying to recover financially from a live together arrangement. What ever you do, keep your finances unmingled, don't cosign on loans for him, get all financial agreements in writing and don't get pregnant thinking it will last forever. Judy calls it "playing house."
say no.<br />
he's desperate and controlling.<br />
lose him quick.
when in doubt. get out.
If you don't know what to say, then your answer is really no.
He loves me three months weve been together talks about the futurw but doesnt ask me to move in wht?
If you have to ask, the answer is no. <br />
Daisygirl is right. I'd be suspicious of insecurity or dependency (emotional or financial) on his part.
The farther you stay from him,<br />
the stronger and nicer will be your love.<br />
Then a wedding with consent of parents of both sides<br />
will be your ideal and remantic love story.<br />
Other ways are not true love,<br />
but only childish and fatal imaginations.<br />
This is the opinion of a happy old man<br />
who is still living with his old wife, children and grandchildren.
If the answer would be yes, you would know it :)
What do you mean to do? Will you do what you mean to do and nothing more?
Ask for a detailed definition of love. If he can define love to your satisfaction then move in.
WHile under his roof (yes, HIS) you won't have the rights you think you will, or the privacy. If you still decide to go ahead and move in, insist on keeping your old apartment until you feel 100% comfortable. Never lose your independence. Men crave this in order to control. I hope you won't be in for some unpleasant surprise.
In that case, say 'NO!'