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My boyfriend wants me to take down my dead husbands pictures who died 7 yr. ago from alcohol.?

We had no children together. So he says there no reason to hold onto the past. And he also wishes I would be able to pet his little lovable Yorkshires. He is a sober man 24 years. After my husband died I seem to have found more guys who drank to much also. He loves my cooking, He also has a good job. He loves God also. We have good sex. He is 8 years older then me. But I fear he will ask me to either sell my house and love his dogs. I know he is a good man. Maybe to good for me. Why do man always want to change me and tell me I am living in the past way to long now.
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itsnotok
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it may make him uncomfortable, that is all it would be. why dont you take them down and hang them some where or sit them somewhere that only you can veiw it...
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grandlakeprincess
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Posted Jun 14th, 2009 at 11:39AM
I still have a picture up of my husband who died in 2003. He is holding our son on his lap. Don't do it till you are ready. He has to accept you and give you time to grieve. It was your HUSBAND and if he really loves you, he will be patient with you. It doesn't matter how good of a job he has, if you settle and let him control you now, it starts a pattern.
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edgargeorge
Posted Jun 14th, 2009 at 10:17AM
I think it is a reasonable request for him to make, that you take down the photos of your dead husband. You should live in the moment, not the past. Keep the pictures in a place where you can pull them out and look at them when you want to remember him.
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imahag
Posted Jun 14th, 2009 at 3:28PM
Don't do things that make you uncomfortable. I couldn't imagine having to be forced to get rid of my past
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IlooklikeJesus
Posted Jun 14th, 2009 at 11:30AM
No. Positively, don't. Unless your place is like a shrine, why shouldn't you have reminders?
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wiseowl
Posted Jun 14th, 2009 at 11:30AM
When he wants to marry you then take down the pictures.Don't let him control your life and decide what you SHOULD think, feel, want and get rid of! Don't be a push over or you will get pushed into doing what you don't prefer.
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wings44
Posted Jun 14th, 2009 at 11:30AM
Well, its your pictures no his. If you want to keep them than he should respect that. He may be a very good man but everyone has their limits.
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TouchMeNot
Posted Jun 14th, 2009 at 3:33PM
Tell him you will take down the picture when he gets rid of the dogs. It's called compromise, if he can't then send him on his way.
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aileengein
Posted Jun 14th, 2009 at 3:26PM
If that creep can't understand that you love your dead husband, lose him. He isn't "a good man"..sounds like a controlling *******. You are so much nicer than I am.....
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Duana
Posted Jun 14th, 2009 at 11:36AM
your boyfriend would respect your boundaries if he loves you. This is a STRONG BRIGHT red flag. This is just your boyfriend- your husband was your husband. You are obviously not ready and there is no need EVER to let go of the bond you shared with your husband- ever. You will find a man who understands this. This is simply sad.
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