My boyfriends mom has been talking about Suicide a lot lately and I want to help him help her. What should we do?
She's about 46 I believe and she feels like she has nothing else to live for. Because her only child has moved out of the house and she feels like there's nothing left for her. We've tried to tell her that she does have so much to live for like her sons marriage and his children. Her grandchildren. I just to give my boyfriend some advice on how to help his mother and what we should do. Help please.
12 Answers to "My boyfriends mom has been talking about Suicide a lot lately and I want to help him help her. What should we do?"
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Talk her into going to the doctor for medications so she will feel better.
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http://www.hopeline.com/
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Try to get her free pro help there are plenty of places that can help her, if she tries to end here life you will feel terrible forever
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Shr needs a therapist and antidepressants from a professional. u cannot handle this on your own.
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don't try to do it yourself. let someone who is trained.
i've been forced to talk several people down, and it's not something I recommend doing. it doesn't matter how much you care, it's not something you should be doing.Like (1)
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I have never thought a empty-nester would talk about harming themselves. This is not a judgment here. I would have to remind her as you have already done about her value in every member of the family's lives. And here is something else. Has she thought about volunteering? Ask her about becoming a mentor, volunteer in Hospice, Hospital or Library. Of course there will be more places. Maybe, she could use a search engine to look up volunteering in her state. If she is sounding hopeless and helpless she should see someone and soon by making an emergency room visit with here if it ever came to that. If you can make a lunch date with her and or some interesting activity. Visiting the local animal shelter (they seek volunteers too). There are classes in various arts. There is always the possibility of working a second job so she doesn't have to come home to an empty apartment. And, have you told her about this site? How cool it is that anyone gets to create and share fact or fiction and make friends? I hope this helps.
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Call a suicide hotline and tell them the situation. See if they have any advice. If you attend church, you could try talking to your minister for advice.
It's not unusual for a woman to feel that she is no longer worthwhile when her children have grown up, and she finds herself alone- especially if she is a single mom. If she doesn't have a job, that can make it worse.
She needs some hobbies. She needs some friends- her own age preferably.
When my dad died, my mom had just retired from work, and she has had to make a whole new life for herself. She goes to line dancing classes and really loves it. She cross stitches and enjoys reading. She also gets out and shops or works in the yard. Staying busy is helpful. It could be that your friend could include his mom in more family outings. He could ask for her help with the children and let her know how valuable she is to the family.
It could be that, at her age, she is experiencing perimenopause, which can mean depression for some women. She might need to see a doctor to see if she can get some help with that.
All my best to your friend and his mom. That must be frightening.
Oh...there are books about this sort of thing as well. Some of them might help her. Go to the local library and ask if there are any you could check out or recommend to your friend for his mom.Like (1)
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She feels she has nothing to live for? Then tell her about me...if anybody has nothing to live for it's me and I'm still here. I should have two children running around but two different women had miscarriages.....I should be married but the girl I was gonna marry died in a car accident. So here I am 49 ..never been married, no kids and she thinks SHE has nothing to live for. You never know how good you got it walking thru life barefoot until you lose your feet
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Go over, call 911, report she is suicidal, lol @ results.
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See above...
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I agree... Take her to church... Why don't you take her instead of giving him advice? Show her someone cares...
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Posted by BadassQuiat Jan 22nd, 2013 at 6:01PM
Don't take her to church. You need to take her to a hospital so she can get treatment for her depression.
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