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My boyfriend's sister verbally abuses me and then asks me to babysit so I don't want to do it. Should I do it anyway?

She knows her son will be looked after with loving care while with me so she asks me to babysit but then calls me names (such as "ecentric" and "classy but snobby" ...so she basically gives me backhanded compliments all the time). I don't want her to lose her job or for her son to be looked after by a freakazoid but I also don't want to do any favors for a person who doesn't respect me. What should I do?

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11 Answers to "My boyfriend's sister verbally abuses me and then asks me to babysit so I don't want to do it. Should I do it anyway?"

  1. Wigglebottom - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by Wigglebottom Aug 14th, 2012 at 6:21PM

    I would tell her that she would be much better off finding someone that is NOT classy but snobby, and eccentric. You know how dangerous that can be...

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  2. Lucinnda - 51-55 years old - female

    Posted by Lucinnda Aug 14th, 2012 at 6:24PM

    say, "i don't know - i might be too eccentric to do a good job. do you really want someone snobby taking care of your kid?" throw her words back every single time she asks. she may be shamed into at least apologizing and/or thinking twice next time.

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  3. boomboomyeah007 - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by boomboomyeah007 Aug 14th, 2012 at 6:43PM

    haha. :) I really might say this to her...

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  4. Myalee - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by Myalee Sep 2nd, 2012 at 5:29PM

    You should. She sounds like a user and complete B. Me? I would have said no!

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  5. deluxe2027 - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by deluxe2027 Aug 14th, 2012 at 6:20PM

    SAY NO AND TELL HER WHY.
    Don't be stupid, or she will treat you like your stupid.

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  6. boomboomyeah007 - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by boomboomyeah007 Aug 14th, 2012 at 6:30PM

    If I tell her why, it's going to start a huge fight I don't really have the emotional capacity to have right now... plus I'm in a very fragile living situation. I live with my bf and his sisters and mom... soooo, i don't want to rock the boat.

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  7. deluxe2027 - 31-35 years old - male

    Reply by deluxe2027 Aug 15th, 2012 at 1:09AM

    Talk to her mom first then talk to her. Respect is always worth a fight.

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  8. Serenitree - 66-70 years old - female

    Posted by Serenitree Aug 14th, 2012 at 6:19PM

    Well, maybe you should be charging her for your services. Not doing her a favour. At least, if she's going to call you names, she can pay for the privilege.

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  9. hylierandom - 36-40 years old

    Reply by hylierandom Aug 14th, 2012 at 6:27PM

    Yep.

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  10. mrhardcock11 - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by mrhardcock11 Aug 14th, 2012 at 6:22PM

    hell no.u get respect when u give respect.

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  11. caramelLova1 - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by caramelLova1 Aug 14th, 2012 at 6:24PM

    I wouldnt do it!!

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  12. zbignue - 70+ years old - male

    Posted by zbignue Aug 14th, 2012 at 6:43PM

    The next time she abuses you verbally, tell her " I know you're just kidding but, your son thinks it's OK to say the same things to me and I'm sure you don't want him growing up to disrespect women, do you "?

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  13. Anonymous2day - 36-40 years old

    Posted by Anonymous2day Aug 14th, 2012 at 6:31PM

    She's probably trying to set you up if she doesn't respect you. She might do something evil like give her son a lot of caffeine so he's bouncing off the walls and set up a hidden nanny cam so when you've had enough and give him a calm down spankin she'll show the video to your family so they all hate you like she does.

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  14. agnes1977 - 31-35 years old - female

    Reply by agnes1977 Aug 14th, 2012 at 6:40PM

    I've always heard that sisters dont think the girlfriend is good enough for their brother... its b/s why do you have to stay there I know hes your bf but cant yall get a little place of your own? I know its hard to come by with money yall should want to be alone together...

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  15. boomboomyeah007 - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by boomboomyeah007 Aug 14th, 2012 at 7:00PM

    we do want our own space and it's really taken a toll on our relationship to live here, at least for me. I def know that his sisters (at least one for sure) doesn't think I'm good enough for him. he's so sweet and perfect to them. and he's a great guy..but nobody is out here perfect. i def am trying to move. it's bs.

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  16. agnes1977 - 31-35 years old - female

    Posted by agnes1977 Aug 14th, 2012 at 6:27PM

    at the next time she gives a ****** comment point out something of hers and see how she feels... or maybe tell her when you say those things it really hurts me... If she doesnt acknologe your feelings in a nice way dont do favors then shell see your more than a classy but snobby girl...I'm not saying you are of course...
    I use to do stuff for everyone but if I needed help no one wanted to help me... So I stopped doing it when my mom passed away a lot more things came to mind of how she said they all use me all the time... so I stopped and moved off an hour away... then think bad of me for leaving but dam* all I am is a pawn to do everything they need to be done... when I go back home instantly my cousin wanted me to tote her wet laundry from her house down to her mother... I said no and girl it felt great...... try it you might like it...

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  17. Tgilly - 51-55 years old - female

    Posted by Tgilly Aug 14th, 2012 at 6:59PM

    No...and tell her why...she's using you.

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  18. SusanWST - 66-70 years old - male

    Posted by SusanWST Aug 14th, 2012 at 6:42PM

    Buy her a *****!

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