Real simple- step up, be a real parent and put a stop to it.
No doubt! I was thinking the same. Sad state of affairs when a 16 yr old is running the show.
stop it! the 12 yo is in more danger. and it will be your daughter that gets in trouble if it continues.
Ground her until she is 18. This is one ****** up situation and you should take control.
I bet people would be concerned if it was a 16 yo boy having sex with a 12 yo girl.
Screw the job, forget about the coworker, and put a stop to it. By the way, I'd be more concerned about your daughter teaching him about sex than the otherway around. She sounds like a sexual predator.
your co-workers son just became my hero... ;)
I can't stop coughing... ****ahem
If the situation was the opposite, 16 yo boy and 12 yo girl, I hope you'd be revolted.
joke dood. refer to comment i made up the list... get a sense of humor. or dont troll me.. either way.. peace
Do you need a piano to fall from great heights....put a stop to it...now...!!! .really some things make my head spin.
What the hell does a 16 year old have in common with a 12 year old? Age is just a number in my house..i pay the bills..the mortgage..food..and my kids don't call the shots on me. Im old school and I don't play. Too many damn ***** assed parents wandering around worrying about damaging their kid's psychological state. You start discipline from the moment they come home you bring them home from the hospital..not when they're older.
If you all have said no..then that's it..amd that boys parents need to be on the same page..cuz..when this thing goes south..and it will..it very well could hit YOU where you live..at your job. Just do what you need to do.. this is a ridiculous situation you adults let your kids get into.
YOU need to chill out !
First of all, to say that a 12 year old is going to give your 16 year old daughter an STD that is really horrible on YOUR part !
Who do you think this 12 year old is? The re-encarnation of John Holmes?
If you are that worried about it then be a smart parent, and realize that you cannot stop them, so give them condoms and tell them to use them if they are going to have sex. Maybe even get your daughter to the OB/GYN for the Pill.
He may be 12 and hopefully he hasn't got a sexual history yet but YOU don't know. The poster doesn't know for sure.
I think it is sick to even insinuate that a 12 year old has been around and gotten a disease already. Is it impossible NO, improbable YES !
I'm trying to figure out when 12 year olds starting having "sexual history's".....LMAO. That's just seems ridiculous. I can promise you that at 12 I was busy...well, being 12. Sex just wasn't even a blip on my radar.
The 16 year old needs to stop being a sexual predator. Period. The 12 year old needs to be protected from being abused sexually. ( oh no, a 12 year old may give my 16 year old an STD... really? Cuz your kid isn't a pervert already?)
EXACTLY! At 12, I had about as much chance of having a "sexual history" as I did of traveling to outer space. The poster needs to relax about the STD thing. I think the boy has more to fear from the 16-year-old girl than the other way around. What kind of normal 16 year old girl would even take a second look at a 12-year-old boy? There's a huge difference in both physical and social development between those two ages, especially since girls mature faster. She sounds socially maladjusted, to say the least.
I know people that at age 12 got preyed upon by 16 year old girls. It happens, and it is just as disgusting as a boy at 16 preying on a little girl. And then these 12 year olds have no concept of what is right and wrong in terms of having proper sexual relations with age appropriate peers while their body is growing and changing, and then they end up abusing other children. The 16 year old needs to be stopped before she messes up more lives with her sexual perversions. If I was your coworker (not Connor's parent) and overheard this crap, I would call the authorities on you both.
It sounds like laws are possibly being broken here. Time to step in and put an end to this before the cops and courts get involved.
Goodness, who IS the one in charge here? What happened to children having boundaries and rules and expectations?
FFS, BE the damn parent and do some parenting.
People started worrying about offending their kids with rules and now the world is their babsitter.
It will probably fizzle out very soon without any intervention on your part. Give it another week or two.
Well, are they actually dating or are you just assuming?
Sounds like this girl is really just hanging out with her friend when she says she is, it just happens to be this boy. I'm sure your daughter is aware that dating a boy at her age who is so much younger would be pointless and they wouldn't be able to do things in grup situations. Which is no fun. Im sure your daughter is smart and you just need to calm down
Good point. I wonder if it occurred to him that the daughter might be joking with him just to see how he would react. Teenagers can be pretty sarcastic and cheeky with their parents. She might know he'd likely flip out and she's having a good laugh at his expense.
Once she turns 18 and if she does become pregnant with his child, she may go to jail/prison for statutory rape.
I would say to the mother that she tells her daughter to find someone else around her age.
Put a stop to it. Change jobs if it helps. Your daughter could also transmit an STD. But she'd be the one in court.
yeah, you do need a lot of help!
I agree with TheLeela
You probably need to find out specfics. Are they having sex or hanging out privately such that they could? Make them stay public or ground her. If she does not agree and follow thru start taking away phone, car, priveleges.
Your 16 year old daughter is not a child anymore. You cannot tell her that she can't date him because she will anyway--that's if they truly are dating. All you can do is put her on birth control if you fear they are having a sexual relationship.
besides that pesky "statutory" thingy oO the boys only 12...
Disagree. At 16 years old, she is still a minor living under her mothers roof, so ya, her mother has every right to tell her who not to date!! Did you not read the question? Shes dating a 12 year old for f**ks sake- whats wrong with that picture?? If anything, the 12 year old is in more danger! Is he not a child as well?
Umm... 16 is still less than 18. She's a child. She can't drink, she can't drive.
Thats right stlcrazy...my parents would have tested my behind with a switch for going against their word..and I'll tell you what..age don't matter to me in my house. Im the queen there and you bet I will tap that *** for disobedience..don't care how old you are..but my kids got that message waaay early in life..all my kids are successful, educated, no babies outside marriage..no one on drugs or in jail..because I taught them hard..and I taught them early. And you bet..lotta love and consistency. Cant start discipline at 10 or 12.. i love my kids too much to let them do what they want.
At 12? I doubt the kid would be even up to it. When I was 12, I dreamed of being with sexy girls and driving Ferrari's in Formula 1 races. Both were about equally attainable to me, and I would probably have been equally clueless what do actually do if I somehow miraculously found myself presented with either option in real life!
That is kind of odd, but I don't think it's enough to be "too" concerned.. I highly doubt she's actually dating the little dude, more like hanging out.