My co-worker's 12 year old son is dating my 16 year old daughter. I need alot of help. I don't know what to do.
I explained to my 16 year old daughter, Kristin, that my co-worker's 12 year old son, Connor, is too young for her to date, but she won't listen. And this is my co-worker's son I'm talking about. "She loves him like her little brother" she says. I understand that she has compassion for him, but to take it too far is just worrying me. They went out one night and I didn't know about it until later from my co-worker (Connor's mom). Kristin lied to me that she was going out with her "friends". That was when I put the pieces together and found out that they're in a relationship. This is really unacceptible and I think she should be dating someone her own age, and I'm afraid that the boy might give her STD if they take it to a physical level. I'm afraid this may affect my job and my co-worker's. I knew her for a very long time and as a mother, I don't want to loose my daughter to her when she goes past her limits and thinks she can do whatever she wants.
21 Answers to "My co-worker's 12 year old son is dating my 16 year old daughter. I need alot of help. I don't know what to do."
Posted by stlcrzy Sep 3rd, 2012 at 8:48PM
Real simple- step up, be a real parent and put a stop to it.
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Reply by stlcrzy Sep 3rd, 2012 at 9:21PM
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Posted by bunnyhound Sep 3rd, 2012 at 9:12PM
stop it! the 12 yo is in more danger. and it will be your daughter that gets in trouble if it continues.
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Posted by KissyTheGreat Sep 3rd, 2012 at 9:10PM
Screw the job, forget about the coworker, and put a stop to it. By the way, I'd be more concerned about your daughter teaching him about sex than the otherway around. She sounds like a sexual predator.
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Posted by 59timesthepain Sep 3rd, 2012 at 8:56PM
Ground her until she is 18. This is one ****** up situation and you should take control.
I bet people would be concerned if it was a 16 yo boy having sex with a 12 yo girl.
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Posted by TheOneyouwerewarnedabout Sep 3rd, 2012 at 8:19PM
your co-workers son just became my hero... ;)
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Reply by Derangedjdub Sep 3rd, 2012 at 8:29PM
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Posted by Woofb4 Sep 3rd, 2012 at 9:16PM
Do you need a piano to fall from great heights....put a stop to it...now...!!! .really some things make my head spin.
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Posted by wwhirlygirl Sep 3rd, 2012 at 9:07PM
What the hell does a 16 year old have in common with a 12 year old? Age is just a number in my house..i pay the bills..the mortgage..food..and my kids don't call the shots on me. Im old school and I don't play. Too many damn ***** assed parents wandering around worrying about damaging their kid's psychological state. You start discipline from the moment they come home you bring them home from the hospital..not when they're older.
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Reply by wwhirlygirl Sep 3rd, 2012 at 9:10PM
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Posted by Wigglebottom Sep 3rd, 2012 at 8:27PM
YOU need to chill out !
First of all, to say that a 12 year old is going to give your 16 year old daughter an STD that is really horrible on YOUR part !
Who do you think this 12 year old is? The re-encarnation of John Holmes?
If you are that worried about it then be a smart parent, and realize that you cannot stop them, so give them condoms and tell them to use them if they are going to have sex. Maybe even get your daughter to the OB/GYN for the Pill.
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Reply by 59timesthepain Sep 3rd, 2012 at 8:50PM
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Posted by BiForce Oct 5th, 2012 at 5:17PM
I know people that at age 12 got preyed upon by 16 year old girls. It happens, and it is just as disgusting as a boy at 16 preying on a little girl. And then these 12 year olds have no concept of what is right and wrong in terms of having proper sexual relations with age appropriate peers while their body is growing and changing, and then they end up abusing other children. The 16 year old needs to be stopped before she messes up more lives with her sexual perversions. If I was your coworker (not Connor's parent) and overheard this crap, I would call the authorities on you both.
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Posted by northatlanta Sep 11th, 2012 at 9:46PM
It sounds like laws are possibly being broken here. Time to step in and put an end to this before the cops and courts get involved.
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Posted by Keyzgerl Sep 3rd, 2012 at 9:19PM
Goodness, who IS the one in charge here? What happened to children having boundaries and rules and expectations?
FFS, BE the damn parent and do some parenting.
People started worrying about offending their kids with rules and now the world is their babsitter.
Step up
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Posted by Snapple10 Sep 3rd, 2012 at 8:22PM
It will probably fizzle out very soon without any intervention on your part. Give it another week or two.
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Reply by hylierandom Sep 3rd, 2012 at 8:37PM
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Posted by SpikedWithCyanide Sep 3rd, 2012 at 8:20PM
Well, are they actually dating or are you just assuming?
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Reply by Kippy214 Sep 3rd, 2012 at 9:48PM
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Reply by paskyno Oct 17th, 2012 at 2:49PM
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Posted by re8wqe45 Jan 1st, 2013 at 4:30PM
Once she turns 18 and if she does become pregnant with his child, she may go to jail/prison for statutory rape.
I would say to the mother that she tells her daughter to find someone else around her age.
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Posted by stephaniebis Nov 2nd, 2012 at 8:20AM
Put a stop to it. Change jobs if it helps. Your daughter could also transmit an STD. But she'd be the one in court.
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Posted by Lauraleedee Oct 5th, 2012 at 1:28PM
yeah, you do need a lot of help!
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Posted by Dreampoet Sep 9th, 2012 at 8:40PM
I agree with TheLeela
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Posted by dayhiker12321 Sep 3rd, 2012 at 9:06PM
You probably need to find out specfics. Are they having sex or hanging out privately such that they could? Make them stay public or ground her. If she does not agree and follow thru start taking away phone, car, priveleges.
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Posted by Blogger422 Sep 3rd, 2012 at 8:27PM
Your 16 year old daughter is not a child anymore. You cannot tell her that she can't date him because she will anyway--that's if they truly are dating. All you can do is put her on birth control if you fear they are having a sexual relationship.
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Reply by TheOneyouwerewarnedabout Sep 3rd, 2012 at 8:32PM
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Reply by stlcrzy Sep 3rd, 2012 at 8:47PM
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Posted by Infinite9 Sep 3rd, 2012 at 8:22PM
That is kind of odd, but I don't think it's enough to be "too" concerned.. I highly doubt she's actually dating the little dude, more like hanging out.
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