You need to talk to a medical social worker about all of the options, hospitals have them for counseling.
God. This is horrible. You are probably in the states. Can you ask the hospital's social worker who to recommend you to contact? How about social services? You are not the main breadwinner. The physicians may be able to write you notes explaining your situation to give to someone. Get advice soon. Others have been in your situation. I wish you luck. I am unsure if your local political leader may help. Involving the media might work too. People might want to help you financially or you might get the attention of someone who could really help you.
I'm sorry. You are in a tough spot. <br />
You might try a debt service or debt lawyer, but if they want a bunch of money up front or want you to sign your property over to them, walk. They are crooks. Before you sign anything, run it past a couple older people that you trust.<br />
He should be eligible for state disability and possibly social security disability. See a disability lawyer. <br />
Contact your local United Way and ask them what services you and your father might qualify for. <br />
Like Cherokee Patty suggested, ask the hospital to see a medical social worker.<br />
Check with the mortgage company for the house. There was a program that allowed people to delay payments in cases like yours. The finance company for the truck may delay for awhile as well. Good luck and I hope your father is soon recovered.