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My dad never sees me helping at home?

This has been very painful, I've been battling it for about 2 years. Yes in the past I never cleaned up after myself, but now I am different. We are on vacation and I have been washing each dish that used. I accidentally blew up at my grandma when she told that I need to train myself to wash after myself, it is just a very sore subject for me. Anyways my dad accused me of having everyone clean up after me even though I cleaned each and every dish. When I tried to defend myself he pretty much told me that I could defend myself if I was right, but in this situation I cannot because I am totally wrong. That really hurt me. I used to be happy knowing that I cleaned up and hoped one day that he would see that I do help. My mom told me that since my room is dirty my dad doesn't see that I clean up. Idk what to do, see I thought cleaning up after myself would make an improvement in my life and get my dad off my back. This hasn't happened. What should I do announce every time I clean a dish? My dad is extremely stubborn and thinks he's always right.

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    runningliberal - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by runningliberal Aug 21st, 2012 at 6:41PM

    Do you know exactly what your dad is referring to here? If not, then ask, it may be something other than the dishes, such as your room. But if it is the dishes, then keep doing what you're doing and don't worry about it (and maybe ask your mom if she can chip in a few kind words for you). Cleaning up after oneself is a good habit regardless.

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  1. Russianclomooogirl - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by Russianclomooogirl Aug 21st, 2012 at 6:43PM

    It is the dishes cause he says the dishes, nothing to do w/my room at all.

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  2. runningliberal - 26-30 years old - male

    Reply by runningliberal Aug 21st, 2012 at 6:46PM

    Make sure somebody takes note of it whenever you do the dishes and get them to put in a good word for you. Bring it to their attention if you have to. Just don't bring it to your dad's attention just to do so (as I told you so) as this would be counterproductive.

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  1. ImaSecret16 - 16-17 years old - female

    Posted by ImaSecret16 Aug 21st, 2012 at 6:46PM

    I understand.My dad is gone most of the day and when he gets home I happen to be done cleaning.So he thinks I havent done anything all day long and he will call me lazy or something.I just laugh it off.

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  2. zbignue - 70+ years old - male

    Posted by zbignue Aug 21st, 2012 at 6:46PM

    Get out the old camcorder and record yourself while doing the chores. When your dad complains, show him the recordings.

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  3. Alive2011 - 36-40 years old - female

    Posted by Alive2011 Aug 21st, 2012 at 6:43PM

    Does your dad have OCD??? Some people you can never please. So how about you keep doing what you are doing and learn to ignore his crappy comments. Otherwise you could tell him exactly how you feel, just as you have told us!

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  4. kessie - 56-60 years old - female

    Posted by kessie Aug 21st, 2012 at 6:41PM

    you know the truth just ignore it

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  5. nafiens - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by nafiens Aug 21st, 2012 at 6:40PM

    Terll your dad to screw himself and move out.

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