My daughter died 4 yrs. ago & since then my husband & I have had to take our ex-son-inlaw to court just to?

I am so sorry you have to experience this, now....after such a horrible loss, already....My prayers go out to you, and your grandbabies....As a grandmother, myself, this is very distressing to hear....

I would contact your local family services department.....Have them go investigate it....they will talk to the boys, in private, as well, and they keep it very quiet, where the information comes from, for the children's safety....Tell them what the grandson's have told you, and they will check into it....they won't mess around.....I am glad your grandson's have you....at least someone is on their side...and that will go a long way, in helping them get through this....

It's sad ex son-in-law told the wife....your grandson's have been betrayed by their father....because no matter who else is in his life, his kids should always be first....

I`m so sorry for what`s happeneing with you.
***hugs***
Have faith and be patient, the dark cloud will pass

My god this is horrible. The former son-in-law has allowed his new wife to focus on her two kids and is attempting to get rid of your grandsons. There is often bias of natural children over step-children. The new mother is petty and ill equiped to be a mother to your grandchildren. She has taken the route of " I tried but these kids had pre-exiting issues that I shouldn't have to deal with". When in fact she is very likely the reason if not the accelerator of the problem.

This is a seriously bad situation which involves child abuse and a meglomaniac woman behind all of this. I have had experience with bad step mothers playing their interests over mine all when I was too young to grasp how petty and ridiculous they were. Neither situation is as evil as the woman who is married now to your former son-in-law. I suggest getting the authorities involved. They are suffering enough at the hands of their custodial parents, what worse can happen? Those custodial parents need to be exposed. If you wait the misery continues..................Damn I hate this situation.

I am so sorry for your lose & your situation. This a tough one. But, really if you think the kids are being treated wrongly or abused,,I think you should try to get custody. I would get a lawyer also. But the thing is, if they are doing these things to the kids someone else higher up needs to hear about it. I hate to say call dyfs because once they come into someone's lives, it could be years before you can get rid of them...but you might have too if the kids are being abused in anyway. And being locked in their rooms for months at a time is abuse. Or if the kids are willing to tell a counciler at school or law enforcement then that would help. But, I wouldn't just not do nothing if they stay they are abused in this way, because it could get worse. If you call dyfs & explain the situation a lot of stuff happens, & usually they come out to the kids home & they take them & they can place them with the grandparents. They usually side with the marturnal grandparents. But, if this happens you need a lawyer..a good one, that will fight for custody for you. I kind of know the low down on all of this so if you need more info, let me know & I'll tell you whatever I know. Good luck.