My daughter is 17 and said some really hurtful things. All I am doing is crying. I didn"t deserve it. Any idears?

didn't think ya'd get that much advice did ya? There is no excuse for saying hurtful things. They are now said and its done.

It's painful, I know. Very painful. Try not to show how much it hurts, she won't get it. Time brings many things into perspective. If she feels ready to take on her life without her mom's guidance, let her. When she makes mistakes, she'll come back to you and then she'll be better able to understand what you are trying to communicate to her. In the meantime, it's only going to hurt you.

Let it go. Get some fresh air. Give yourself some space. The pain will clear away. Stay strong. Stay confident.

You have to let it slide off of you like water off of a duck. She'll grow up someday, and probably be sorry for hurting you. She may never actually apologize for it, though.

Just remember that once she calms down, she will probably realize she didn't mean those hurtful things she said to you. She might not admit it though. I'm sorry you are experiencing this though. =( Try not to take what she said to heart--it was most likely said out of anger and some sort of desire to be fully grown up and "free". She probably doesn't realize that she hurt you THAT much, and she is probably more focused on how she feels. That doesn't make it okay, but I'm just trying to explain why it probably happened like this. I'm 21. A few years ago when I was that age, my mom and I did NOT get along at all! We had such awful fights, and I ended up moving out shortly after graduation. We needed that separation. We can actually get along now. I think it helps that we're not around each other all the time. Once your daughter is done with high school, things will probably start improving, even if she doesn't move out or move far away. There's just such a desire at that age for "freedom."

try not to take her words to heart. she is young, and when she's angry probably won't think about what she says. Don't cry b.c thats probably what she wants. some ppl like to hurt others 2 feel better. i'm not saying thats whats happening in your case, but i've seen it happen between my sister and my mom. Its ok to be sad, but maybe wait till your alone to let out your frustration. a lot of young ppl will do things like that for shock affect. give her time, i'm sure she will turn around someday. my sister did, now her and my mom are like two peas in a pod

You done good mama, you raised a young lady who can express herself freely. Also, remember they really let out the frustrations in the only place they feel really safe to do so. She knows you love her. So, dust yourself off, dry the tears and go have some fun for yourself. It is time for you to love yourself a lot regardless of what she or anyone says.

If you try to listen to the content without taking it personally, you may find little keys to what is really bothering her and also, be patient with yourself and her...in a couple of years as she matures, you will be the most wonderful person in the world to her I'll bet.

It is a frightening age, 17. Perhaps try to get some time when she is not freaking out to have some quiet talks over tea or something.

Look, drama queen (no offense). I can tell you that whatever she said, she didn't mean it (especially if she said it right after you denied her the rights to something). Just get over it, and have a chat with her. If you try to tell her calmly what you've been feeling after she said that to you, and maybe she'd apologize.