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My ex and I want to get back together, but my parents now hate him and I don't know how to break it to them?

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Asked By: mandy713 18-21, F  2 months ago

Im 18 and my ex and I dated for 10 months. My parents were always involved in our relationship and r very protective and set some rules for us but they were not that bad. Towards the end of our relationship my ex and I broke up over a stupid fight and after that my parents didn't like him. They thought we fought 2 much and that he was unambitious. My ex and I tried to get back together but my parents said that we would have to wait at least 3 months till we got to see each other.I was so stressed not knowing what to do because I love my parents and they pay everything for me, but I love my ex. So I thought breaking it off with my ex would make things better...It didn't its been almost 3 months im still not over him and we wanna get back together. But Idk how to tell my parents they are going to restrict us so much not allowed to go out. Plus I know they will be mad and have lots of tension with me and him. I dont wanna move out not just bc of money but also bc I dont wnt 2 hurt them.

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  1. tito2003 - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by tito2003 Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:16AM

    so break up with your parents

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  2. mandy713 - female

    Reply by mandy713 Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:22AM

    I could never do that. Even thoguh they are judgmental and too strict I still love them bc they care about me and have always been there for me. They would die if I ever did that to them.

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  3. tito2003 - 31-35 years old - male

    Reply by tito2003 Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:24AM

    just keep seeing him if is good enough they will like him again if is an ******* to you they will let you know about it

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  4. LoneAlpha - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by LoneAlpha Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:15AM

    Do an hour long infomercial.

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  5. TheBlondeBombshell - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by TheBlondeBombshell Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:17AM

    An ex is an ex for a reason.

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  6. mandy713 - female

    Reply by mandy713 Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:20AM

    the question is not whether or not my ex and I should get back together. We are going to. We broke up mostly because of my parents. I did it bc I cldnt stand the tension with my parents but I cant stop thinking of him when we werent together. The question is how to break i to my parents they HATE him

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  7. TheBlondeBombshell - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by TheBlondeBombshell Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:21AM

    you shouldn't do something to upset your parents like that.

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  8. wetdog777 - 51-55 years old - male

    Posted by wetdog777 Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:22AM

    Since your parents pay for everything they do get a say in what happens. However, I can't help but wonder if the reason you are not over him is because you spent the last three months missing him and feeling sorry for yourself.

    There is a reason you broke it off with him, and you mentioned fighting a lot. That is not normal in a healthy relationship.

    Have you dated others? I have to say you need to find the right guy and put all of this behind you.

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  9. mandy713 - female

    Reply by mandy713 Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:24AM

    No feeling sorry for myself? not at all. I spent the 3 months trying to move on. I went out with my friends went on a couple dates and I could not get my ex out of my head I missed him. I wanted him. I felt nothing with any other guy. I was not happy.

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  10. Whattado - 56-60 years old - male

    Posted by Whattado Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:17AM

    Keys words in the lengthy details - "fought too much" - and if you did then their is no future in it - these activities tend to go on repeating

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  11. mandy713 - female

    Reply by mandy713 Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:20AM

    We fought a lot. But over stupid things that didn't matter. We also fought a lot bc my parents were always so involved in our relationship.

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  12. Whattado - 56-60 years old - male

    Reply by Whattado Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:24AM

    the future seems cloudy - find the sun

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  13. bombyou - 22-25 years old - male

    Posted by bombyou Mar 6th, 2013 at 11:10AM

    You are 18 know stop having your parents so involved. You won't grow up like that.

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  14. mandy713 - female

    Reply by mandy713 Mar 6th, 2013 at 11:33AM

    I know. I feel the same way. But i can't. Since my parents basically pay for everything and I live in their house. its their rules. If i dare say that all hell would break loose.

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  15. bombyou - 18-21 years old - male

    Reply by bombyou Mar 6th, 2013 at 11:40AM

    I have to admit being a guy and knowing guys I will do the same with my daughter You just need to start telling them less. Because your close you probably talk about allot with them. Still talk to them, just change The topic when its on guys and going out.

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  16. Caatcat - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by Caatcat Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:44AM

    Just tell them that you want to be with him again. Their opinion doesnt matter- they will probably try to stop you, but it is your choice. If they care, they will let you make your own mistakes then be there to comfort you if you get upset. Dont let the fear of what your parents will think stop you being happy and comfortable with som1 you love/want to be with.

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  17. mandy713 - female

    Reply by mandy713 Mar 6th, 2013 at 11:33AM

    Thank you! :) This is very true

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  18. Caatcat - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by Caatcat Mar 6th, 2013 at 11:38AM

    Glad to help :)

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  19. ellen183 - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by ellen183 Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:40AM

    imo you have to make the choice. Is he a good guy? You have to be rational too. Not only blinded by love. If he's a good guy,you guys have something to prove

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  20. mandy713 - female

    Reply by mandy713 Mar 6th, 2013 at 11:34AM

    Hes a great guy. I know he is. My parents dont seem to think so. They think he is a nice guy but not for me

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  21. ellen183 - 18-21 years old - female

    Reply by ellen183 Mar 6th, 2013 at 5:46PM

    protective parents,i understand what you are feeling. If he's the one then go for it,maybe quietly at first,and if you guys are happy and compatible, when you guys are stable after a long time,I don't see how your parents can't give their blessings anymore.

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  22. Nandora - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by Nandora Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:25AM

    If you and your parents agreed that after 3 months you could go out with him again and you kept up your end (waiting) then your parents will keep their word.
    Going slowly in a relationship is smart just the P's say but, the wonderful pace of a slow romance you will treasure always. Try to turn the restrictions into restraint and you might have the first great romance of your life.
    You never get to go back to just holding hands.

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  23. mandy713 - female

    Reply by mandy713 Mar 6th, 2013 at 11:35AM

    what do u mean by trying to turn the restrictions into restraint?

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  24. Nandora - female

    Reply by Nandora Mar 6th, 2013 at 2:26PM

    First. If in your fight he hit you. Never go back. If not: You said your parents would restrict you and not let you go out. I was trying to say, u can work within those restrictions. If you can do that, restrain yourselves, your P's will grow to respect the way he treats you (the most important thing to them).

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  25. DrFrasierCrane - 36-40 years old - male

    Posted by DrFrasierCrane Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:25AM

    You may want to first check his true intentions before talking to your parents. Your parents are thinking about your best interests, they do not intend to be mean, (though from your perspective they may seem to be).

    If you are clear about his intentions, calmly speak with your parents, and prove that he has changed. They may be quite cynical at first, but if he has good intentions, hopefully they will be happy for you to go out with him!

    I hope this advice helps!

    Dr Frasier Crane

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  26. DrFrasierCrane - male

    Reply by DrFrasierCrane Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:26AM

    P.S: Before trying my method, do NOT follow advice saying that you should break off from your parents! Family always comes first.

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  27. mandy713 - female

    Reply by mandy713 Mar 6th, 2013 at 11:36AM

    I know for a fact he has good intentions. Hes a great guy. And i know my parents are doing it for my best interest. But my best interest would be for me to make my own decisions and them to guide me. Not force me down the path they want me to take.

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  28. crazyn3030 - 26-30 years old - male

    Posted by crazyn3030 Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:22AM

    Well I don't know how to tell you this but you are going to have to move out especially if they are in your relationship giving you guys so many restrictions because with all those restrictions it's only going to hurt you two. If you move out they will be hurt but they will survive because all you got to do is keep in contact with them.

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  29. mandy713 - female

    Reply by mandy713 Mar 6th, 2013 at 11:38AM

    They won't want to keep in contact. not for a while. Our relationship was great when my parents loved him. They let him stay over since he drove an hour to see me every weekend. Took him to our family vacations etc. But now that they dont like him its going to be sooo different. Now them being involved is not a good thing. But i think that will be my last option.

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  30. crazyn3030 - 26-30 years old - male

    Reply by crazyn3030 Mar 6th, 2013 at 1:16PM

    Trust me they will be mad at first and might not call you alot at the beginning but trust they will keep in contact.

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  31. dskdw25q9n - 61-65 years old - male

    Posted by dskdw25q9n Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:21AM

    To hell with your parents. The decision is yours alone because you alone have to live with the consequence of getting back together or not getting back together. And moreover, you will still be living in the future with that decision that you make today, even long after your parents have died from old age. So do exactly what you want to do without regard to peer pressure.

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  32. mandy713 - female

    Reply by mandy713 Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:25AM

    Thank you. My parents know that its my decision but they are going to make our relationship HARD!

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  33. dskdw25q9n - 61-65 years old - male

    Reply by dskdw25q9n Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:26AM

    Then disown your parents. Just remember, however, that your parents can disinherit you, which means you get nothing from the estate, when they die.

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  34. ravin800624 - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by ravin800624 Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:20AM

    Seek some profesional person for advise

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  35. PathologicalVillen - 22-25 years old - male

    Posted by PathologicalVillen Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:19AM

    Sounds like they re pretty controlling of you, why would you want to live in that type of enviroment? There's really no way to break it to them that will ensure them easing off. It's not going to get easier, they're not going to just turn around and change their minds...he'll have to give them a hell of a reason

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  36. mandy713 - female

    Reply by mandy713 Mar 6th, 2013 at 10:25AM

    They are VERY controlling. But they control me bc the love me. Even though its wrong. But yes they will hate him and give us a hard time. They will cry.

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