I would go to the funeral if I wanted to and was comfortable with the family. You could also send them something and flowers for the funeral home if it far away or you're not sure you'd be comfortable going.
cards and a care package are the same thing.....especially if you can remember what sorts of thing the immediate family likes ..like what cookies to make
I think you should go.....sit towards the back pay your respects quietly and be supportive....If he was a good guy and the marriage ended ammicably.....then you need to go......
As in my culture I would say just go, show your respect, the relation between you and your ex is another thing. Your ex family perception toward you also another thing. If you really think its inappropriate for you to go then just send a condolence.
I would go. My father and mother divorced and it was a horrible ordeal. I took my fathers side and never really saw my mothers side of the family anymore. But when my mothers father passed away I went and paid my respects to him because he was a good man. I could have cared less about anybody else there because I did it for him and that's what counts. So go and do what you feel is right :)
I think you should go.
I would go but not spend a lot of time with the family show them you cared and pay your respects to allow you to get closure for you not them but be respectful of them which I have no doubt you will because it is you
Out of respect for your ex and your ex father-in-law, I would think it would be very appropriate for you to attend the funeral.
You're very welcome.
I attended the funeral of my ex mother-in-law, out of respect for her.
I think it would be respectful for you to attend. Sadly, funerals tend to bring the worst side out of people. Kinda pathetic. It's your last time to display anything for this wonderful man, who clearly left an imprint on your life. I went to the funeral for my ex-hub father last year and I even brought my husband, we all got along well and comforted each other.
I'm sorry for your loss and I wish you the best. Hugs.
BTW... I like ur profile pic. So natural, pretty and happy looking!!
You should consider of going. You are doing to this to show respect for the Father, Not Your Ex. You could bring a friend with you for support.
yes do go by all means and be there to honor this person that you have so much respect for, no question.
You need to go. This is between you and your ex-Father in Law and nobody else. Even if it's just for a minute.
As long as there are no harsh feelings between you and your ex, if you cared about this man I say it would be good for you to go to his funeral. Ask your ex quickly if he would mind if you came to pay your respects.
not entirely sure of your situation,but I know my cousin's ex wife came to my aunt's funeral ( her ex mother in-law of course),and she paid her respects,very respectfully,and nobody took issue with that.Not sure if this helps,or even if it pertains to what you were asking,but I hope so.
I would contact your ex and tell him you'd like to attend the funeral. I think that would be better than just showing up .. especially if you haven't had any contact with him since your divorce.
I understand how you feel, but you don't want to make a scene at the funeral if they would prefer you didn't attend.
Hopefully, you can attend and show your respects in person.
Call ahead to inform your ex of your intentions to attend, and ask if he can understand and respect your wishes to pay your respects in person. Ask if it's appropriate for you to let anyone else know ahead of time. If anyone says anything, then or during the services, simply let them know that you are there to honor the memory of an admirable person in your life.
when my ex showed up at my mother's wake
with her entourage of family members, I thought it was weird.
I would have preferred not seeing them in attendance.
I explained to some people with questionable looks on their faces,
that I was sure their presence had to with our daughters.
it was awkward.
I think you should go, he was a good person to you!
"Ended friendly"? Is the the ex who got on EP and was telling your friends all kinds of things and blaming everything on you? If so, I'd be a bit wary about going.
out of Respect you should go...