You should do what your heart tells you. This guy is a good guy, right? So why should you let them make that choice for you? No, he doesn't have a job and sure, he's not in school but that doesn't mean he can't do either of those. Maybe try helping your bf find a job. In the mean time, they just need to be quiet and support your choices.
My god. I am sorry but do you even know what you're saying? You're just making excuses to stick with this *******. Who cares how long it's been. Who cares what he says he's just saying that to you to make you stay with him. Do you REALLY think that he was thinking of you while that other girl was giving him head in the theater? Do you really think that he was thinking of you when he snuck behind your back and asked her out to a movie? Do you really think that he was thinking of you when he talked with her on his cell and made those arrangements? No, he was not. He was only thinking of himself. Are you willing to stick around that? He doesn't even love you if he loved you, he wouldn't have done that he would've been with you and you two would've been cuddling on the couch and being happy together, no. He CHEATED on you and therefore, that means he is no longer satisfied in your relationship with him. I know it's hard but you need to break up with him and move on.
I wouldn't know enough about your circumstances to say much that's useful but I do have a few things I am curious about. Like how long have you two been together? I feel like there's this strange dynamic going on though, you're his girlfriend not his mother. He's ostensibly an adult with a preschool aged kid and he's living like this. You've gone above and beyond for the guy, you aren't married so why do you feel an obligation to even support him? Doesn't he ever question any of that?
I think it might be a matter of being in different stages of your lives. You're still a student preparing for a career, (or focused on that) and he needs to focus on either finding a job, or joining the navy like he promised he would. He's got a kid you're years away from considering the idea. Whatever the case if you're having trouble keeping yourself above water you aren't doing him or yourself much of a favor by enabling him like this. Its weirding out your friendship too.
Its time his word meant something, and he needs that push
Prove to your family that he is not like they say! Prove them wrong!
Oh well still prove them wrong! You gotta be more assertive with your bf tell him to get his sh.it together and look for a job! If he is this unmotivated to do so then you should take your bros advice!
Do not let your family define you and your choices. You are your own person and entity!!
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Give him a time limit to do something constructive with his life: job, school, military. If he chooses not to take action by that time, tell him you will leave him. Tell him you expect him to pay you back the money you loaned him. Whether or not he does it, is another matter. You may have to take a loss on it and take it as a lesson learned the hard way. Time will tell. Frankly, if he has a son that he has no desire to support financially, he probably isn't too concerned about being responsible or supportive of a girlfriend. <br />
Find someone who is responsible.
stop supporting him and ask him to do something (job) and don't leave your family for him unless he proves that he is worth for you
Marry the bastard
Dump his sorry arse
I thought girls only went for guys with more money than them?<br />
Hmm, must be wrong :)
Assuming their suspicions are false, ignore them.
It sounds like you need to set some terms. For example, tell him to either find (and keep) a job within two months or you'll stop giving him things.
It's not cruel, it's helping him. Whether he sees it or not.
Families can be really stupid at times, but in this case it sounds like they're genuinely trying to help.
Ask him specifically what places he applied to. When I was pretending to job hunt (don't worry, I actually did find a job within a couple months anyway, lol), my first answer was always that I applied "everywhere". When someone asked me specifics, it made me pause.