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My family is divided,since my husband and i just seperated,after 44 yrs(hes cheating) how ,do i help my 3 grown children

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4 Answers to "My family is divided,since my husband and i just seperated,after 44 yrs(hes cheating) how ,do i help my 3 grown children"

  1. Pinkytoes13 - 26-30 years old - female

    Posted by Pinkytoes13 May 21st, 2012 at 7:08PM

    They're adults. Explain to them the situation and tell them that you'll be there for them no matter what happens. That's all you can do.

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  2. senecagirl11 - 61-65 years old - female

    Reply by senecagirl11 May 21st, 2012 at 7:12PM

    been there done that,my girls are with me and my son walked with his dad-----now we are divided,and its killing me-------

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  3. senecagirl11 - 61-65 years old - female

    Reply by senecagirl11 May 24th, 2012 at 3:22AM

    hes still my son,and he has 2 sons ,i dont see,his wife cheated and left him-----i would think he ,would be more compassionate------thank god for daughters-------tyty

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  4. Canolabears1 - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by Canolabears1 May 23rd, 2012 at 6:10AM

    You're right it is easy for those who are not in your shoes. They can say whatever they want......not easy for those who have children they loved so much. I have two adorable, wonderful and very strong (emotionally) children. They are my precious jewels. I made the decision to call it quits after 20 years together. He wronged us and our children and still have that pride to lift his head as if what he did is alright. The children were shocked of my decision. I told them he is still their father and no one can change that. They can make their choice. My daughter who is 20 wants to stay with me and my son, 17 wants to stay with his father. Now his decision breaks my heart. I sacrifice a lot to let this boy grow and molding him to be strong and have a solid foundation so that he can be a man with integrity. I don't know if he is just in denial to accept the fact that we are not a unit anymore. The process is very painful but we have to move on.

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  5. senecagirl11 - 61-65 years old - female

    Reply by senecagirl11 May 24th, 2012 at 3:26AM

    i think at any age children are hurt when there parents split-----after 44 yrs nobody is expecting it either------yes i know yr pain and i am moving on tyvm,,but my kids pain ,is whats killing me----

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  6. pegasuss - 61-65 years old - male

    Reply by pegasuss May 24th, 2012 at 2:53PM

    You are a fool. Adult children cope with parents divorces quite well. It is you who suffer the most and you are simply trying to avoid your own issues by saying they have the problem. They don't, you d. He was YOUR partner for all those years. Not theirs. Wake up toyourself and go see a doctor.

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  7. rickibrat2 - 61-65 years old - male

    Posted by rickibrat2 May 21st, 2012 at 7:18PM

    you can not they have to excpe what happened and why
    make surethey know theyare not at fault

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  8. senecagirl11 - 61-65 years old - female

    Reply by senecagirl11 May 21st, 2012 at 7:34PM

    easier said than done they are all hurting-----and at this age they know its not their fault-----

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  9. pegasuss - 61-65 years old - male

    Posted by pegasuss May 21st, 2012 at 7:14PM

    I would suggest you need their help more than the other way around.

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  10. senecagirl11 - 61-65 years old - female

    Reply by senecagirl11 May 21st, 2012 at 7:19PM

    no,they are adults,who know whats going on and they are hurting,and divided,im trying,to help them all have a relationship with both of us ----we are divided because of their decisions not mine----

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  11. pegasuss - 61-65 years old - male

    Reply by pegasuss May 21st, 2012 at 8:05PM

    So YOU need the help from them as they caused it. Stop defending them and see it properly. You say the words exactly that way but then defend them .You need the help. From them. It's THEIR turn in the barrel.

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