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My fiancé has Made so many promises. Ie; stop the pot smoking. It's hard for me to trust him anymore? He lied about it.

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Asked By: Sweetmisery83 26-30, F  1 year ago

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6 Answers to "My fiancé has Made so many promises. Ie; stop the pot smoking. It's hard for me to trust him anymore? He lied about it."

  1. midnightstoker - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by midnightstoker Feb 11th, 2012 at 9:24AM

    i dought it was the weed that made him lie....probely something else...

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  2. Sweetmisery83 - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by Sweetmisery83 Feb 11th, 2012 at 9:37AM

    Prob the fact he can't help himself. He didn't lie he just didn't hold his promise of trying harder.

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  3. Sweetmisery83 - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by Sweetmisery83 Feb 11th, 2012 at 9:42AM

    It is doubt been engaged for 2 yrs and nothing had changed so neither has the status

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  4. whatizmu - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by whatizmu Feb 11th, 2012 at 9:17AM

    Why do you need him to stop?

    At the heart of it, you need to decide if you love him as the person he truly is, or if you love the idea of what he COULD be if only he did all the things you want him to do?

    I think you need to stop this before the marriage and figure out who you really love. This man, or your idea of what he could be. Because you got engaged to someone who likes pot, and I am telling you hon, you don't find successful marriages based on the idea that things will be fine AFTER they change.

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  5. Sweetmisery83 - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by Sweetmisery83 Feb 11th, 2012 at 9:29AM

    In the end it boils down to me actually trying to compromise with the addiction we had just discussed him cutting down an keeping it for weekends only. I stopped talkin to my aunt and sister a couple of months ago cause they don't help me take care oft grandparents and drugs have taken over there life. My fiancé went there and sat with them smoked a joint and talked about me. The blunt of it is he couldn't wait for the weekend nor could he stick by me 100%. I gave him back the ring an told him that I'm goig to therapy to help myself and he needs to do the same. When he gave me the ring he made the promise of chabgig Himself cause he wanted a better life. I'm ok with moving on but he's not.

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  6. whatizmu - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by whatizmu Feb 11th, 2012 at 9:33AM

    Whether or not he is "ok" with it, you need to be true to yourself and the actual situation you are in. We don't marry people because we are worried about them not being "ok" with us not marrying them. Right? You have your life, your happiness, your business, your goals and those are the things that you have to deal with now. You cannot change another person, EVER. Trust me. Never. He can change because he wants to change, but that truly has absolutely nothing to do with you. You must deal with the situation you are truly in. Do you love this man, and will you marry him knowing he is an addict? If so, great, marry him! If you do not want to be married to him as an addict, do not marry him. This is your choice, this is reality. Be true to what you really want and do not get married based upon what could be. If you can accept him as he is today and let him figure out his addition in his own time, then fine! Do it. Do you see?

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  7. roadtooblivion - 56-60 years old - male

    Posted by roadtooblivion Feb 11th, 2012 at 4:26PM

    Stop bloody nagging the poor guy so much. If you want to change him that much then why are you with him in the first place ?

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  8. BabzEsq24 - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by BabzEsq24 Feb 11th, 2012 at 10:08AM

    It will not get better EVER once you are married

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  9. LonexWolf - 18-21 years old - female

    Posted by LonexWolf Feb 11th, 2012 at 9:33AM

    Are you really going to marry someone you can't trust? That's foolish. Either work out your issues in couples counseling, or leave this guy- he doesn't sound like a keeper.

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  10. demuremandy - 22-25 years old - female

    Posted by demuremandy Feb 11th, 2012 at 9:27AM

    Dump hime and get a new boyfriend that does what you tell him.

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  11. Sweetmisery83 - 26-30 years old - female

    Reply by Sweetmisery83 Feb 11th, 2012 at 9:38AM

    After this trust me I don't want to date anykore

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  12. demuremandy - 22-25 years old - female

    Reply by demuremandy Feb 11th, 2012 at 1:12PM

    You will find some one really nice soon.

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