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My friend cannot see that her man is dangerous and trying to isolate her from her family and friends. My friend is articulate, clever and educated but not so clever with men. She has cancer and just had a major operation. Her live-in partner is extremely manipulative. Once, he screamed and shouted when she asked for thousands of pounds of money back (she lent him the money). Yesterday, I wanted to visit her in hospital but the ward put me onto him and he said she could not have visitors. I ended up going with another friend and she was ok to receive visitors! He is now trying to stop her own friends from visiting her in hospital! He is evil and sinister. He says he should own half her property, so I said see a lawyer.



He knows what I think of him so he has it in for me. I told her she should leave him. How should I play this one??? He is very manipulative. I think he is destroying her.
Her attraction for him is a disease and an ADDICTION.

Talk to your friend's family and friends and explain it. This phase of recovery is extremely important and social contact is NECESSARY. Getting all these people on the same page with you may be a task but it really is at a life-or-death point. This sinister boyfriend most likely has a great deal to do with the emotional environment that created this cancer in her. I would say that you may need to direct some scenarios that allow this boyfriend's nature to become revealed to all concerned, including her. Be creative. Get things in writing/recording/photo/etc.

But yep, try to push some boundaries. What's the worst that could happen if you sneak in to see your friend? Or if you took the ward aside and told them what was going on (if they're too busy to talk, then type out an explanation and plead for their sympathy).