You dont choose your sexuality it just is.If you cant accept her as she is then perhaps its you that has a problem , mmnnnnnnn?
It sounds like you're trying to control your friend's life. It is her life and if you truly cared for her you'd help support her. She cannot control her sexuality or sexual preferences, and forcing her to change is neither being a friend nor is it supporting her.
I've noticed you refer to her in somewhat derogatory terms calling her "very weak, emotionally," and not very strong. You also say "I want to make some changes." This leads me to believe this isn't about her - it's about your issues and your own emotional weaknesses. Put simply you're not willing to accept her as she is and support her unconditionally, but instead trying to force her to accept your world view.
You're not a very good friend to her.
How dare you try and change her....do you want her to feel rejected and weird, outcast and unacceptable??? what is wrong with YOU...how can you change YOURSELF?
Let her live her life the way she wants to.
Get out of her life- friends like you ---who needs judgmental idiots
You DONT! ...& if u WANT to, then y're one LOOUUZY friend!!!
i can understand you care for her and want her to be happy and not get hurt but you shouldnt want to change who your friend is, if her parents dont like her being lesbian then you and your friend should start looking for apartment for her and let her stay at your place until she has one, im not saying your're a bad person but the way your'e tryna handle the situation isnt right
then get her to a shrink, they not cheap but they may be able to help her self esteem and confidence, also take her out, i know you cant drink cos ur under 21 but there are other things you can do, the best thing for you is to be her support and a shoulder to cry on when she needs it, i wish you and your friend good luck :) x
Look...You need to read about genetics / neuroscience...
Your bigger question should be "How can I get my freind / her parents into counceling...so their can be an understanding between them...and grow closer and have an accepting /healthy relatinship"..
Get her a gender reassigment operation, that would make her straight.
I bet it sounded better in your head, right?
lol you cant
? if someone is gay they are gay you cannot make them straight just as you cannot make a straight guy gay too. she will have to do what everyone else does either embrace who she is or spend her life worrying about what others think, her choice.
Good answer modelkelly.
No one can change it and as a friend, you should just let her know you love her no matter what she chooses to do with her sex life. That is her business and nobody else's.
why do you want to change her? thats who she is...try being her support. She'll appreciate it more than you trying to do what everyone else is...
Wait TiLL She FaLL Asleep Then Use The Rubber Chicken Or Get Her High and Drunk Then Use The rubber chicken again... pOk P0k PoK
You cannot change someone's sexual orientation. Accept her as she is. If you cannot accept her, you are not really her friend.
I feel that she can not change .
She has to be the one that wanteds to
And just be there for her.
Her parents are not.
And I bet she need someone to be her friend.
Hang in there.
You are NOT going to change her .. she is what she is due to her genetic make up. Let her know that you are there for her and will be there during the good and the bad times .
she is strong enough to acknowledge her sexuallity as difficultur as that is when she is in a minority. How about you changing you? That is something you can do for yourself. You can only change yourself, not another. Do you have control issues where you want to make everything nice nice for everyone else and for yourself? Do your best at being a friend to her and to yourself. Trying to change someone else is fundamentally wrong--love is unconditional.
You can't change her, all you can do is remain her friend and support her.
You really need to accept her for who she is. If she told her parents she is a lesbian this isn't a faze she is going through. This is who she is and there is nothing wrong with being a gay in anyway. Don't make her be ashamed for who she is. You have to show her you are accepting and supportive.
Sorry it says that she told her parents. You should still accept her. When she is ready to come out of the closet per say she will. Also you can not change anyone. And if she's your friend you should be there for her.
You're a terrible friend and a moron to boot. best thing you can do is get out of her life.
Only reason you could possibly want to change her is to have sex with her--am I close?
Then let her be herself.
It's really none of your business. What if she wanted you to be a gay man? Would you be able to change just because she said so?