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my girlfriend wants to have children but im not quite ready to do that yet. First i want to be stable in my life and career, have a home and be able to provide for her fully before anything else. She really has her heart set on it and is very passionate about it, i want to tell her no not yet but i kind find the right words to say or how to say it, i feel as if i might seriously hurt her feelings and that nothing good will come of it. I don't know what to do or say, can somebody help?
undeniablespark undeniablespark 18-21, M 8 Answers Apr 20 in Dating & Relationships

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She's lucky to have someone with their head screwed on. If you're not both ready then put it off for a wile...

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thanks everyone this really helped, i hope she will take it well and thank you for the compliments and wise words :D

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Stick by your view, you are right.. Say what you have said on this question and go from there. tell her you would want the best for her and the baby and the times not right

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Even tho I think having children is the best thing in the world I still feel one should try and do his best to be stable in his life before accomodating kids in his life. Make her realise that what you both have right now might not be enough for what you'd like to provide your children with. Will you have enough money/conditions to be a familly together on your own house? Will you have enough time when kids start going to school and help them with school works, weekends out, do stuff together? (they need all of your time) What about college? What if something goes wrong with him and he needs more then the usual? Yes please think first about the children and then the relation, make her understand.

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Your view is correct and if you are 18-21 then you are still quite young. I don't like seeing lots of poor people with soooooooo many kids. I feel sorry for the children because they don't get the benefits of school supplies and all those other good benefits. Well, just discuss it thoroughly.

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You should just tell her you dont want to yet. She will be fine lol. Say exactly what u say on here. If u dont tell her then thats gonna be a sticky situation you put yourself in.. wouldnt you rather her be a little upset then you be put in a situation u dont want yet for 18 years? .

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