The idea that you can change people is false. You cannot change people. You are being dishonest if you allow her to believe that you can be controlled, that you are happy to be controlled; in order to make her decisions about you future she needs to know if you have a problem with her deciding how you shall live in this context.
Do you have a problem?
hat is not a girlfrend that is a dominatrix who wants to OWN you and control your life like a puppet.
Do I really need to tell you what you need to do here?
As much as it'll hurt, life is far too short to waste your time with someone like that.
A lot of the time, that's who they are. They'll just end up bringing you down.