My grandmother passed away two weeks ago and my mother is completely distraught. What can I do to be there for her?
I was never very close to my grandmother, but my mom was. In fact, my mom has spent the last 2-3 years since being laid off taking care of my grandmother's health issues. She seems find and them randomly she will break down in tears. I feel bad becuase I don't know how to relate. I am not feeling the same kind of loss she is, but I still want to be there for her. I really don't know how to be around her right now or what to say.
6 Answers to "My grandmother passed away two weeks ago and my mother is completely distraught. What can I do to be there for her?"
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I am very sorry that your mom's mother passed away. I can't imagine how she must feel. I still have my mom. If I was in my mom's shoes, I would want you to be just around. Just be around doing your daily things. Maybe talk about your grandmother and say what do you love the best about your mom. And give her hugs whenever you can or feel she need.
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It is likely to take her a long time to deal with her grief. Don't try to console her, but be generous with your time, be around her so she isn't alone all the time, look for little ways to be kind to her, like buying/cooking dinner for her, or shopping for groceries, or giving her a hand with her chores.
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Be there. Normal grief takes time...see if you can get her out of the house a bit.Exercise(a good walk in nature)is good and see if you can draw her out by getting her to recall good childhood memories about her Mom.Above all be understanding grief is a hurt..not a pain.Hurt takes a lot of time to heal
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Just be there
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just be there for her and give her the love she needs right now, your prob the best person for it. go on give Mum and hug.
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Posted by singwme 1 Apr 29th, 2012 at 9:31AM
I spent almost two years taking care of my mom when she broke her hip. It was the biggest job I ever had. Bathing, feeding, putting her to bed, taking her to appointments--it consumed my life and ultimately ended my marriage. Your mom not only lost her mom but a large part of her purpose in life and it will take some time for her to feel that needed again. Truthfully, it was a bit of relief when Mom passed-she had a massive stroke and hung on for weeks without the ability to speak or eat - it was heartbreaking to watch. Tell your mom that you need her as much as ever and give her the time to adjust to taking her own life back. She will, in time, think of her mother with a smile--the grief will pass but the loss will always be there. Parents are supposed to leave first.
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