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My grandparents live in my home. How do I ask them to move without harsh feelings?

I thought I would add more details after reading some responsed I recieved so far. You have some really good advice. Before my grandparents moved in they lived in a senior citizen's home building. They had seperate places. After my grandparents moved in I realized that what my Granny wanted was for someone to help care for grandfater. He is active, he drives and cooks but he forgets a lot. He wont let anyone help him. He lies to his doctors and wont tell them that he drinks and smokes cigerettes. It seems at times that he is impossible to help. I have 3 children. They are 5, 7, 9. Grandfather is not used tochildren (he is my stepgrandfater) he does not enjoy being around the kids he deciede to find a place of his own. But I think he has changed his mind because he is not activly looking. want him to leave because of his sharpness to the kids. Granny does not need me for physical things, she says she is lonely and does not want to live alone. I am not her only option.

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woh, that's a tough question. you might find a place for them that is close to you, comfortable and at a price that is affordable for them, or if you subsidize them. tell them after you find them a place that you need more privacy, and you're sure they do too. good luck!

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Debra27	Posted Jul 2nd, 2009 at 11:56PM Can they come and stay with me? (I don't have mom or dad or any grandparents left, I miss 'em) Rated: +3Vote for this!
rubythursday	Posted Jul 4th, 2009 at 8:29PM You don't. You will devastate them if you ask them to leave. Have they given you any indication that they aren't happy and would like a place of their own? I never had grandparents and I can't believe anyone would want to get rid of theirs. Both my parents lost their parents before I was born and I always felt I had a big void in my life. Actually, I say shame on you. Unless they are stealing from you or harming your property or children, you should find a way to make living with them work. Rated: +2Vote for this!
pukirahe	Posted Jul 2nd, 2009 at 11:42PM I could not imagine that there are such grandchildren on earth. The bad people I know are those who leave their house if they dislike their elders; but I did not know people who try to chase away the elders! Even the sweetest words you can choose, will definitely kill them mentally and physically. Learn to bear your 'bad' elders, otherwise you will regret bitterly. Rated: +1Vote for this!
HeartofHearts	Posted Jul 3rd, 2009 at 12:01AM i wonder if they are feeling that they want their own place too? even if you love them the mostest and bestest, too much of a good thing can be... well... too much! if you are like me, you need your own space. there is nothing wrong with that. of course, our grandparents deserve the utmost repsect and compassion and i think that a place nearby is a great way to bridge the gap. that way you can visit them often... have meals together regularly... help them out when it's required... that way you still have your own space but are still being respectful to the elderly in your family... the key word is "compassion" Rated: +1Vote for this!

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