My husband and I had a great connection. We seem to have lost it. How do we get it back?

Communication is KEY. Just sit him down and quietly and calmly tell him how you feel. Try not to cry...men think that it is emotional blackmail and they tune us out. LOL.

Everything will get better. It may never be exactly like it used to be, but it will get better. :) ((((hugs))))

I agree with the Movie Fireproof....the point being a renewed outlook by the two of you. Also dating at least weekly again, start looking for the things you like or something appreciated and leave notes for each other, consider a weekend retreat away, both the fun kind and a spirtual kind (Weekend to Remember - see online)

talk, with a listening ear. listen...with an outsiders ear. re-act....with a one minutes pause.Remember what you hear, is not what he meant to say. what you say, is not always what he hears.
remember, communicate...in the morning, in the evening. ask about his day, if this make him happy, and what he finds is missing, and thinks is missing. getting him to talk about how it feels can be hard to talk about

Check your wiring and try to reboot the router.

One night can not fix anything. Subtle changes here and there in your daily routine and perhaps, some in the bedroom aswell. I'm not saying you should go all bondage barbie, just little things like being on top and taking charge, or if you are always ontop, tell him to get ontop of you. Tell him that you are his for the taking and that seeing him take charge is a turn on. Talk during sex, ask him if this feels good, if that is what he likes, ask how he wants you! You will be surprised at the changes in your connection in and out of the bedroom!

I've tried everything to get my sexless wife, to be affectionate, caring and connected to me again! Nothing has worked. I bought a love board game, with all kinds of fun stuff on it. A love dart board, with actions to act on; still a flat line...... I even bought a book called the 5 love languages, which was recommended by our pastor, and she hasn't acted on anything. I think she is sex/romance dead. How can a woman not want to be physical and romantic and aroused by her husband? Ladies, I would like some answers. I'm running out of patience, and I'm a pretty low key guy, but frustration has set in after 5 years of the same old same old. The divorce is coming pretty quick if she doesn't wake up. I told her last weekend, if she doesn't come around, I'm going to leave.