similar experience with my wife recently. A lot of pain to be processed, and it's difficult to process because you just want to be close, but it's hard to be close because it's hard to trust. . . kind of a vicious circle.
So what's your question . My answer is leave ... I know it's not that simple . I know how you feel and I know you won't trust any man for a very long time . I've been right where you are
Without trust you have nothing. You either need to be sure he is willing to work his bum off to make you trust him again, or you need to move on. Without trust, life f'n sucks.
are you 100% sure the affair over?
I totally understand that. My wife did the samething and at times it is really lonely. It is personally difficult to let yourself go and trust after that no matter how much love you have.
**** that. you don't need someone in your life that's going to hurt you. no matter how lonely you are that's not right and not fare to you in the end.
Learn some self respect n self worth
very critical situation...hurry to fix it...as soon u can...take decisions...!
You need to move on. Once a cheater, always a Cheater!
I am in the same situation. I have been told to be thankful that he is still here. I am thankful but he makes me very lonely. No communication unless we need an answer for something. He works all the time or is involved with a lot of things. I don't know if I should be thankful or just try to be contented
If you want to stay with him, with time you will feel better- thats if you know you can trust him. If it was a stuipd mistake I might be able to forgive. But why r u lonely? Is it because hes not there enough?
Yeah, that is a symptom of things gone wrong. I think with infidelity, the woman deep down blames herself for not being enough, while men tend to blame her to so as not to face their own inadequacies.
Both those positions are emotionally small, however, and this is an opportunity to grow in life, to learn and be more from now on. It is hard to restore broken trust. It is hard to change.
He betrayed you, you have nothing your lonely because he break your heart through his selfishness and without trust you have nothing. Also he had an affair and still has you, lucky guy.
once is a mistake,twice is a habit
and a little confused? It's the worst to feel lonely with someone
Well sure your lonely he betrayed you so now you have serious trust issues. The trust issues will pass in time.