My husband doesn't know if he loves me and he is defining if he does. How long should I wait? He said could be years.
We separated in November because I lied to him. He then left me homeless and I lived in a homeless shelter for over a month. We then got back together in his home town where I know no one and have no friends. I am in counseling and I and have not lied. Between both of us after our bills are paid we should have $1400 mo left over. Every month we are short. We have nothing to show for our money. I usually spend all my checks on bills ir food. I don't know what he spends his on. He says its none of my business. He expects me to cook, clean etc while he does nothing. He says his family (brothers, sisters, aunts and uncles ) come first and always will. He said it may take him years to decide if he wants to be married to me. This hurts so bad. I don't consider it a lie but he did. I worked in an hr department and he has an adult son who quit his job and moved in with us and needed a job. I told humidity could get him something but I found out he has felony convictions, dui's, and does drugs. So I couldnt get him the job.Money wise I pay most of the bills. He is supposed to pay the house payment and cell phone but last month he spent all the money giving it to his son and exwife, since she is supporting his son. He moved us closer to his family and has caused hard feelings with my family so they can't/wont help. He is also controlling to the point of limiting and telling me who I can talk to