My husband involves his family in our marriage, and I am tired of it..Help?

Thats a problem as old as marriage itself. You've got to have it out with him.
Don't shout or get heavy-handed, but be firm. The marriage was between you and him, not you and his family. Tell him you love him and them and want them around, but not in the marriage. You have to mean it, because your happiness (already diminished) is at stake here.
Best of luck and tell us how it goes!

You have my sympathy.. Hugs.. Let him kow how you feel.. I mean he married you and its about time you two managed things on your own and make your own decisions.. though lovely to have inlaws around.. you still need your space..

Wouldn't you consider it to be to late to be asking for this kind of help . This you should have known before marriage .Get with the program or get out . If you try to change him and his family value you be divorce anyways . If you married him for his values you should be changing yourself to meet with his standards .

Third party intrusion. Loving family you must think you are helping, your son has married it is responsibility as a husband to remedy any solutions with his wife, all you will all do is unfortunately destroy something beautiful.
Husband communicate and understand your loving wife, marriage is between two partners discuss any issues with your partner.

For certain cultures... when marrying, you do not only marry the spouse, but also his family. You might want to check if you can handle that part of things now, before it's too late...!

My ex wife used to do that. I think it is, as a rule, a terrible idea...and undermines one spouse. Having said that, I am skeptical of you. I've heard many a woman moan and complain of such things while they simultaneously tell their mothers or sisters or friends "everything". Just make sure you're not being a hypocrite.

I was in a marriage like that.. It got to the point where I just flat out refused to speak to him or his family about any of our problem when they we all together. I always made sure that I had something else to distract myself with if they started talking to me and if they escalated it I had one blurb I would say and that was all I would repeat.. "This is important to me but I will not talk about it right now with everyone around me. I am not comfortable right now. Stop talking about this and leave me alone! I will speak to ***** Later in private!" Maybe try that?

Your husband allows this because it suits him. If he didn't he would keep them out of decisions and from influincing his opinions. You must talk to him and seek his thoughts. It won't change if it is his desire. If he allows it because he is not desirous of hurting feelings, then you make him decide you or them. My wife includes her family and I definitely was tired of it early on. She didn't care what I thought and I hold it against her to this day. It wasted a lot of time during my twenties, worrying about dependent siblings, some older than me, and their self defeating decision making. i.e. "What, I can't put diesel in a car that runs on unleaded gasoline? Really? can you help me ..............." Yuck to interloping in-laws